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To ask how you test a reluctant six year old

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Spry · 07/09/2020 10:28

With schools back and the coughs and colds season soon to be upon us, it seems inevitable that someone in our family is going to have a temperature sooner or later. And when that happens, I think we are all supposed to have Covid tests.

I am dreading trying to test our six year old daughter. She has always hated having anything done to her body by someone else. She gets hugely distressed by procedures as simple as having a GP listen to her chest. We've only recently been able to get her to cooperate with having her feet measured in a shoe shop. If we even try to discuss getting her hair cut, she puts her hands over her ears. You get the picture.

She is otherwise a very happy, NT little girl (though pretty shy with people she doesn't know). Her twin brother doesn't have these difficulties.

If we get to the point of trying to do a Covid test with her, whether at home or a test centre, I know she will totally freak out and be impossible to reason with. The NHS website's only advice, as far as I can see, is to put on a video for the child to watch and offer a reward at the end. None of that is going to make the slightest difference with our daughter, I know.

So, what do we do? On the one hand, she is clearly far too young to be taking decisions about what happens to her medically - particularly when such decisions have implications for people other than herself. On the other hand, I hate the idea of attempting to overpower her physically, and forcibly sticking things up her nose against her will. What's more, even if we managed to get a nose swab from her, I simply don't know how we'd get a throat swab. She would clamp her mouth tightly shut. I think children in the USA don't have to have the throat swab but, as I understand it, is a requirement here for a valid test.

Has anyone else attempted to do a Covid test with an uncooperative child? Are there any clever ways round this that I don't know about?

Any tips gratefully received.

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FirelighterGirl · 07/09/2020 10:37

Watching as I have a similar child.

Visions of us all isolating all winter!

Greenvalleysightseeker · 07/09/2020 10:46

I had to just do my best with my 5yr old son yesterday, he did reluctantly let me but it was impossible to find his little tonsils without touching his tongue or the inside of his cheeck with the swab. He was retching and gagging. I dont know! We havent had the result yet but it comes back inconclusive if you touch the tongue or cheek- btw how the hell do I get him back to school with an inconlusive test result??
Hopefully these 20 minute no-swab saliva tests will be available soon fingers crossed

Tootletum · 07/09/2020 10:49

Well I'm going along today with two similar age kids so can always let you know.

qwertypie · 07/09/2020 10:50

Tell her the truth, that it might be uncomfortable, but it needs to be done to keep her & everyone else healthy. And that you will be there beside her to hold her hand.

I'm not a fan of bribery, but in these situations, the promise of sweets afterwards has helped us too...

Maybe she can also watch someone else getting it done beforehand? There may be videos online of kids being swabbed.

qwertypie · 07/09/2020 10:52

Also, another thing that helps my kid is guiding him to breathe deeply and repeat in his head (or out loud) "I can do it" or something similar. This helps calm the fear and stress for him.

Sengi · 07/09/2020 11:08

I took my son for a walk-in test yesterday and was told just to swab one nostril for 10 seconds. He's only 3 but I was still expecting to have to swab his throat.

GreenPlum · 07/09/2020 11:14

We did a drive through test and in that scenario, I have no idea. We were instructed to rub left tonsil for 10 seconds, right tonsil 10 seconds, left nostril 10 seconds, right nostril 10 seconds.

If you order a home test, you have a bit more opportunity I suppose. If all else fails, my first thought is to have a stab at it while she's asleep. Forgo the throat bit as I understand is sometimes advised with children, and just try the nostrils.

She might never trust you again and the MN army might jump on me citing abuse, but.....!

Even if you don't think you can do it while she's asleep, a home test might be the way to go.

OldEvilOwl · 07/09/2020 11:14

You will be swabbing her not a stranger. I took my 10 year old yesterday for a drive through appointment. You stay in your car with the window closed and are passed the test through the window that you open a few inches to get then close it again. Then when it's done you pass it back out.
You use the same swab for the back of the throat and up the nose. I could not hold the swab on the back of the throats for 10 seconds so just touched it a few times, then moved onto the nose which was a lot easier. Hopefully that was enough to get a result. Will let you know today when I hopefully hear back

TeddyIsaHe · 07/09/2020 11:19

Dd is 3.5 and I just explained that it wouldn’t feel nice, but we need to do it so we don’t give ‘the bug’ to anyone else.

It is shit (I did myself and it’s horrid!) but she was fine, and it’s only 20 seconds or so of discomfort.

Take chocolate/sweets for afterwards!

Elsewyre · 07/09/2020 11:23

Would they let her do the swabing herself under supervision?

Otherwise this may sound silly but practice with a cotton bud at home together?

firsttimeoptimist · 07/09/2020 11:28

My 6 year old and I did the drive through test together (although only he presented symptoms). We read the information together and I went first. He was actually better at it then me. I dont know what he was expecting but i talked through the process and he was fine afterwards (whilst I wanted to gag!). I think it is the unknown that is the most scary. children look at you for social clues so I remained factual and breezy. It was fine and I honestly wouldn't worry in advance.

Thorilicious · 07/09/2020 11:29

Had to do this for my 4 and 7 year old last week. I was convinced they would both be inconclusive, due to swapping the tounge, but they were both negative luckily.

Di11y · 07/09/2020 12:51

If you can't get a throat swab you do both nostrils. It's not v nice but over quickly.

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