AIBU thinking my partner is being ridiculous?

[Justcurious93]

Me and my boyfriend bought a house around a year ago and have been decorating it slowly. We have had a new floor fitted in the spare bedroom and I noticed then that the ceiling hasn’t been painted. I pointed out that it was dirty and looked awful next to the freshly painted white walls. My partner has gone in an enormous huff saying that it’s too late now and he doesn’t want it painting and is refusing and arguing about me painting it. AIBU thinking that he is being completely ridiculous?

Anyone who goes into a massive huff about anything like this is being a tit.

Can you imagine your best friend doing this? Your parents? Siblings? You? Nope.

Is there a reason you can’t paint it?

No reason we can’t paint it - DP is arguing that it will ruin the floor if it gets paint on but it’s laminate so it won’t: I tried to compromise by offering to get a professional decorator to do it but that hasn’t helped

Why’s he stopping you from painting it?

Dust sheets exist.

Op, the question was why don’t you paint it.?

X post. Who made him the fucking boss?

Can you not put dust sheets down? Making tape the to the skirting boards.

He sounds very dramatic.

*masking tape them

This is a non issue. Just paint it.

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I have three. Been used many many times. My vair naice flooring remains vair naice.

I know it’s a complete non-issue that’s the problem :/ he refusing to let me paint it either as it’s “his” room. I’ve pointed out that dust sheets exist for this reason

Is he just sick of the bloody decorating? Sounds like it.

his room, what's he using it for ? if it's for his use only does it matter if the ceiling is grotty ? may be the ceiling could be done at a later date.

How is the spare bedroom his room? Maybe tell him to fuck off and sleep in it then?

Ah, the spare room is his room. I know this one! Because the rest of the house is yours. I do hope he sometimes helps you with your hoovering and your ironing, even if he doesn't see mess like you do. Remember if you need help with your housework now you have a place together, just ask!

The most confusing thing is he is not normally so unreasonable! He’s great with housework @TorkTorkBam and generally a chilled bloke. I would never have believed it would turn into such a huge argument, he’s just told me he feels “betrayed” I’m “continuing to push it”

Betrayed is a bit strong! Although if I'd spent ages on a room, finally thought it was finished and then had it pointed out to me that the bloody ceiling needed doing I might be a bit miffed because ceilings are a damn pain and usually result in needing to repaint the walls too. Hopefully I'd manage not to get into amateur dramatics over it.

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Is something else going on with him? All sounds very angsty over a ceiling. Put a pin in it for now.

Get someone in when he's out at work - once it's painted, he can't un-paint it. And why is it his room? Do you have your room?

I’m planning to get someone into paint it :) the AIBU was to see if I could shed some light on WHY he is so fuming about the idea. And the his room thing is a non-issue I have a separate room too.

If it's his room, leave him to it.

Quite honestly I'd just do it one day when he's out at work or something. My DH was being a tit about his office (desperately needed painting but he was refusing to sort it) so when he was away for a few days I just did it.