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To think this constitutes harassment of some sort?

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Minescurry · 06/09/2020 10:49

Neighbour and we (myself and wife) bought terraced houses next door to each other on a new development. We are both doing our gardens up. We have planned what we’d like in ours for ages and have been doing it slowly when money allows but our neighbour keeps messaging composing we are copying his garden!
We aren’t , we are just doing it how we like and with two garden centres nearby and similar plants being sold in both (for the climate we live in, northern England) I would have imagined most people end up with similar plants! He messages us regularly complaining we are copying even though I’ve told him we aren’t we are just doing what we want and have planned it since we moved in. He must be peering in from the upstairs frequently to see as there’s a fence!
I regret ever giving him my number (was trying to be friendly when we all moved in).
I feel like it’s harassment as surely what we do in our garden is our business as long as we aren’t disturbing him? We don’t play loud music or keep the place untidy and I’m feeling quite weird that he’s so invested in what we are doing and obviously monitoring us in the garden then messaging about it to basically tell us not to have anything the same as him. He’s plainly said he doesn’t want us to have anything the same.. I could understand if he painted his shed red and we did the same a week later but I think he’s a bit OTT! And making our lives a misery.

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BenoneBeauty · 06/09/2020 10:50

Block his number.

Suzi888 · 06/09/2020 10:50

There’s nothing he can do, he sounds very childish. How embarrassing for him ...

DanielRicciardosSmile · 06/09/2020 10:51

Does he just do this via text? If so I'd just block his number.

Rollmopsrule · 06/09/2020 10:52

Agree just block his number. He's being ridiculous.

PicsInRed · 06/09/2020 10:55

Send him one blunt message stating that you are simply doing the most obvious work and using the most generic plants, which are most locally available, and that he's not the unique landscaping artiste he presumes himself to be.

Blah1881 · 06/09/2020 10:55

He is mentally ill. Do not facilitate him- just block him.

Minescurry · 06/09/2020 10:55

Yes via text. Don’t want him to accuse me of being rude though (genuinely think he’s unhinged and trying to keep on the right side) but blocking is looking more and more like the way to go. So glad you all said he’s ridiculous - was wondering if we were imaging it!

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Minescurry · 06/09/2020 10:57

Oh he has said it face to face too. I just said I’m sorry I’m very busy and started mowing the lawn.

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user24 · 06/09/2020 11:01

This made me laugh! Why don't you tell him that HE is copying YOU ... have some fun with it Grin

giletrouge · 06/09/2020 11:15

Send PicsInRed's message.
There are disturbed people everywhere, dealing with them kindly but firmly is a life skill.

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