Is this a narcissist or just somebody who doesn't give a shit?

[yarncakes]

Say someone is really upset and this so called narcissist asks if she's OK, she says no, a close family member has been diagnosed with a terminal condition, then the narcissist would automatically start talking about her and her situation about someone in her family who has cancer and she would literally go on and on until she gets herself wound up then she would just walk away and nothing more is said about the other person, not even asking how she is etc. I witnessed this earlier on and I just felt like it was very disrespectful to start talking about yourself and your own problems rather than listen to someone else who has just poured her heart out or even just be a shoulder to cry on for 5 min. This is someone who appears to have absolutely no empathy or compassion whatsoever.

Okay. I have posted this in the wrong section! I've reported to MN to move it to AIBU. Sorry!

Narcissist is the most over used and misused term on MN . It may be just that it brought back bad memories and triggered something. A bit more compassion needed definitely , but it works both ways.

You can’t expect a bunch of strangers on a forum to diagnose someone with narcissism on the basis of one post.

Maybe a bit more empathy from both of you is needed

Sounds just like my MIL. I wouldn't call her a narcissist though, just very self absorbed.

Its hard to say based on one example but its definitely feels a bit rude tbh!

While pregnant, i suffered HG throughout my pregnancy. My MIL will visit me and ask how i am doing and if i feel sick. I say yes(she asks almost everyday through whatsapp and it drove me nuts) if my mum says something like "shes been sick all day today" then my MIL goes on about several examples of her feeling sick while pregnant.. I dont know if this is narcissistic behaviour but it did annoy me. It felt like without much invitation by myself my condition has been set aside like its normal (oh yes several of this cousin that cousin had it) all stories will be worse than mine!

As MIL shes is a nice person probably shes trying to tell me that im not alone most women have it please fight through it. But at that moment I couldn't think rationally i just got irritated 🙈

I really dont know!

Some people try to connect by showing common ground-- ie "that happened to me too". They may be trying to connect and show they understand, and not realise it can come across as being self-absorbed.

However, continuing to go on and on about yourself isnt good. Maybe they just go really upset. Maybe they are a narcissist. It is difficult to know just from your post.