To want more sex?

[Olderdp]

That's it, in a nutshell.

I am 48. DP is 68. We have been together 5 years, but good friends for 5 years before that.

I was in a celibate marriage, so hadn't had sex for over 10 years when we got together (after my divorce). So I am a bit keen.

DP is also very keen, but the normal frequency is once a week, or possibly once every 4-5 days not that I'm counting

We don't live together as I have teenage DC at home and we both think their lives need to remain as stable as possible with me. Plus he also has his own carry-on, as do I.

However, I would ideally like to shag every day. AIBU?

Obviously, I haven't broached this with him as the very last thing I would want is for him to feel pressurised into having sex when he doesn't feel like it.

Bloody hell. Kicking 70 and he does it that frequently? He’s doing well.

I’m glad you’ve seen the light though OP. Nothing worse than a partner pestering for sex when you don’t want it. Either male or female!

I think we would struggle with everyday! I would try to always remember what you have, I'm guessing like me you are peri menopausal, I could be at it 3 times a day at the moment! But I'm assured it will wane fast

If you want to be shagging every day you need a man 20 years younger -not 20 years older.
And yes, good decision to not be doing it when you have teens in your house. Teens hearing mum shagging a man old enough to be their grandpa is very high on the icky scale.

Count yourself lucky OP.

When we do it, it’s great, but my DH is only just 40, and he barely wants it once a month! I’d love once a week!

I found my sex drive revved up a bit just before the menopause kicked in and I would have been around your age then.
Once I was fully menopausal it dropped right off. The sweats and vag dryness are not very sexy imo. So maybe your sex drive will level out in the next year or so and you will be more evenly matched.

Thanks for the head-wobble, vipers. It's what I needed.

To clarify: if I had set out deliberately to find someone to have lots of sex with, I wouldn't have chosen someone older. It is, as Underthecedartree says, more the case that I thought: ooh, this is nice (having never been that bothered about sex before).

I definitely don't want to be doing it in the house with three teenagers around (13-17, so the perfect age to be horrified by it ).

I'm probably also suffering because of lockdown, as I didn't see him for many weeks as we both WFH and kept to the Roolz and now want to make up for lost time!