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Being cut off by a friend

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Joely881 · 05/09/2020 08:25

Bit of a long one so here goes. One of my friends who I was close to, so much so back when she got engaged at the start of the year implied I would be bridesmaid etc. Anyway over lockdown she started to act really off with me, I was working full time and she was on furlough. I didn’t think anything of it at first until I tried to arrange to meet up and she was busy, or cancelled last min. Then she didn’t bother with my son’s birthday. Then came the bridesmaid issue- I have had a really tough year after going through quite a trauma. I wasn’t asked to be bridesmaid and I heard through mutual friends it’s because she feels I have too much going on with what I am going through and it is all about her wedding after all. She has also done the same thing to another friend and seems to have replaced us with new friends. I am really really hurt by her. I supported her through crap points in her life, yet she has totally cut off our friendship during lockdown. I don’t know wether I should text her to let her know how upset I am by her and ask her what I have done to deserve such horrible treatment or just let her go as she is not the person I thought she was. Or am I being unreasonable in even getting upset about it all.

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SummerWhisper · 05/09/2020 08:34

Definitely let her go, unless you:

a) wish to keep the friendship, accept that you are not going to be bridesmaid and fully support her wedding

b) think you can change her mind, become a bridesmaid and always wonder what lurks beneath

Boulshired · 05/09/2020 08:49

It seems like she has changed her outlook on life and you are no longer a pivotal part. If she has been a good friend you can give her space and she will probably come back around. If she has little to offer to your life and you have other friends you can just let her go. Any conversations will just be eaten up by the wedding.

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