To expect things to be done?

[always2ndbest]

I'm currently working full time, 8am to 5pm 5 days a week. OH works 2, 24 hour shifts over 7 days, from 10am to 10am, sleeping from 10pm-7am. He is home today. Last worked yesterday.

Before I left for work this morning I put a load of washing on. OH still in bed, awake, messing about in his phone. I call up to ask him to put the washing in the dryer when finished and sort the recycling and put it out ready for tomorrow.

I've come home, shattered, and he's done neither. Asks what's for tea and looks shocked when I lost it.

Now he states there are still so many hours left in the day and he will do it now.

Aibu to have expected these 2 things to have been done whilst I've been out the house for 10 hours? He thinks I am.

No, you're not. Stop running about after him and spell out exactly what you both will do around the house. You both live there after all, lazing around in bed on his phone and expecting you to plan, shop for and cook his tea is pathetic

Wow what does he do that involves a 24 hour shift?

Care work on a one to one basis with overnight sleeping duty.

He's allowed to sleep for 9 hours of the 24.

It would annoy me too. In regard to 'what's for dinner?' the natural response is 'i dunno, you e been home all day. I thought you mightve got something ready.'
Doesn't he know that washing starts to smell if you leave it wet?

Yanbu. I used to do this type of work for a short while many years ago. Although it is exhausting and I don't think the sleep is the same as in your own bed. I think you can do fairly basic household things on the day after your shift. So when he finishes at 10am I wouldn't expect the same as if he'd been at home. But then to do fuck all all day is not acceptable.

@Hotelhelp

Wow what does he do that involves a 24 hour shift?

Fire service or coast guard would be my guess.

This wouldn’t bother me. Obviously don’t do it yourself but don’t expect him to either. He’s just as knackered as you. Have a conversation and set boundaries and expectations.