Discussion last night with my DDs (10 & 13) that’s playing on my mind...
DD10 says she’s not as pretty as lots of her classmates, and - because she’s a bit of a tomboy (her words) - seen as less pretty by the boys. She is, by all objective measures, actually beautiful but that’s beside the point. I asked her to describe how she had arrived at this conclusion and she said that some of the boys in her class had rated the girls looks but wouldn’t tell them their final verdicts, leaving DD worried she isn’t in the top half of the list.
This leaves me livid and horrified on so many levels. I responded with a short feminist seminar, mouth foaming and ear steaming. DD13 confirmed this rating system as standard with boys at her school too.
WIBU to raise it with DD10’s teacher?