aibu to think mn should be for mums and not dads.

[2hot2cook]

id like to think that when i come on here for a quick chat im talking to other women. ive noticed some men on here and thats actually putting me off. some of the topics we talk about are very intimate. i cant understand why men would want to come on this website, maybe the name should be changed to parentnet. aibu.

Mmmmmmm...Bobsdad, used to be a scrummy myself, all that squinty feeding and "Not straight" dear boy!

Explains a lot!

timing a little off there Armadillo?

thearmadillo; not being rude to the men on here at all. have said at least twice that i think their probably lovely, but as i dont know them, cant be too familiar.

really cant add anymore to this and as people are starting to tell me to fuck off, time i made my cocoa.

( now, wheres my famous five book!)

Nah, Marslady, fundemental misunderstanding of blokes here, will havew forgotten about it in the morning...it's a blokes thing! :0

I think bobsmum (and I) would have something to say about that Marslady!

dagnamit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2hot2cook - not telling you to f* off, you are so entitled to your opinion. Just trying to get you to open your mind as to why it might not be a problem. Enjoy your cocoa.

Ok 2hot2cook... take your point..but how can you be familiar with girlies that you don't know? Ever since my teens I've been fortunate enough to be able to share with friends male and female alike.

Sad (honestly) if you haven't been lucky enough to achieve that sort of intimacy with a male friend who's not a "Boyfriend". you've missed out.

So many wise and sensible words spoken on this thread and still the OP is sticking to her line. Why are we bothering?

yeah you are being rude by coming onto a site they are regular, respected posters on and telling them that you basically wish they'd fuck off.

That's rude.

I can't believe you really can't see that as being rude.

Dh was even a bridesmaid once to his best (female) friend. No dress though...just some tails.

dh1; you sound very nice, but better not talk to you or will have everyone telling me what a hypocrite i am.

well said dh1

I don't think my opinion of you could get much lower 2hot2cook whether you were nice to dh1 or not.

well, DH1 aDAD, BobsDad and fellow male posters.... if your DWs/DPs ever get fed up of you, let us know and we'll auction you off on MN. You 'll be set up for life on the proceeds!

And please, in all of this, let's not forget that perhaps 2hot2cook hasn't been lucky enough to include men as well as women in her "inner circle" of friends. Sometimes, there are reasons for these things, so we shouldn't be too harsh.

Crumbs. As a dad I've gleaned lots of great advice from MN about dd's high sensitivity, her schooling issues, a bullying matter, carrying her on my shoulders, having her sleep in the same bed when she stays here (tonight is first night in own room..), and other things that have slipped out of my reducing memory bank.

AND like prob. all dads on here, I DO avoid the "soley female" type threads that I've got absolutely nothing to contribute to....

so, yes in agreement with 99.99re-ocurring% of posters here {which is lovely to read},

YABU

For three years now I've taken the lead role for my kid -enjoyed it all, but tbh sometimes it'sa real drain. The biggest thing that I've found tho' is this seemingly accepted "fact" that men don't take an interst in or look out for their kids.

I'm an overactive dad -I'm Chairman of our PTA, I\ve sngle handedly revamped and set up our new School Council, I'm actively involved in our Out of School Club (trying to stop it going bust...lots of intersting financial stuff their), I take my wee boy to footie, to rugby, to swimming, to beavers....my poor DW works her (not as small as it used to be) arse off so that we can have this kind of dad/son relationship... (I was brought up Catholic... give me the boy til he's & I'll give you the man)..I get involved.

BUT, do you know what hacks me off more than anything else?

The number of stupid, stupid, stupid and I really mean stupid, women who then, because of their inbuilt attitudes to male/female roles in bringing up kids, make fun of the fact that my DW and I have taken this road. The number of times I'll get crass "oh it's good to see a bit of role reversal" or "well at last you'll know how WE feel" sort of crap comment. Whagt makes this worse is that I get these sort of comments from some of the people who openly stae that their ain in life is to get dads more involved...the HeadTeacher of our Primary School, the Manager of our Out of School club, several female parents on our PTA, (but not our Depiuty Head...oops hope my Dw isn't reading...)

But seriously, I hear SOOOOOOOO much crap about men and their roles and lack of involvement that it makes me wonder (inwardly 'cos I daren't voice my opinion) IS IT ANY WONDER MORE BLOKES DON'T GET INVoLVED WITH THEIR KIDS. (Apologies to all you reasonable girlies out here.)

yeah, but even if you can't contribute to wholly female threads, you can read and learn from them. Some will help you better understand women. Some will only convince you further that you'll never understand women!!!

with you 100% on that one DH1. My DH and I share childcare responsibilities. When my DS started school, one women (a raging feminist, would you believe) approached me to say how sorry she was that my DH was unemployed. WTF?! He just has flexible arrangements - as I do - so that we can share childcare responsibilities , and this women is never off her soap box about how equal we all are!

Lilolil - I think thier wives might have something to say about that . They're not going to let go of thier dhs withoout a fight

dh1 dont mind this rediculas ignorant thread you sound like a lovely man some people are just idiots my own dh takes as much of an active part of our ds,s life as i do and i wouldnt want it any other way thats what makes a real MAN in my opinion

bobsdad is mine all mine and he does have a life. We're off to bed to talk about mooncups now.

Night night

tis ok, have my own gorgeous DH1 equivalent Prettybird, so your fella is safe with you! Just trying to make a point (tho worth bearing in mind if you ever fall on hard times!)

There are men on here? Men with willies?

Mmmmm, Lilolil...interesting offer, but nah...my DW....ach she's no that bad, I'll stick with her for a wee while longer, but I'll bookmark your post.....

2hot2cook, yes, I am nice..aren't I DW? But tbh, you're not a hypocrite, course not, I CAN understand your "concern", but I do think they might be a wee bit misplaced, some blokes genuinely do care about their kids, their partners and the various folk on here who have been very generous with their time, their feelings, their empathy and sometime stheir stern advice all of it aimed to help us all sort out this minefield that is being amum/dad.