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Original poster

aibu to think mn should be for mums and not dads.

882 replies

2hot2cook · 06/10/2007 12:39

id like to think that when i come on here for a quick chat im talking to other women. ive noticed some men on here and thats actually putting me off. some of the topics we talk about are very intimate. i cant understand why men would want to come on this website, maybe the name should be changed to parentnet. aibu.

OP posts:
3andnogore · 06/10/2007 21:05

YABU and a bit naive, imo...because, well....it's the world wide web anyone could read any of the posts at any time and they don't have to be aprents or anything, they could be anyone with any intentions, at the end of the day!
So, really to worry about those that actually post and are part of the community is kind of odd...they probably aren't a problem or danger...also...why would renaming the site make any difference...you say you feel uncomfortable at some of the things you may post being read by men...surely renaming it to parentnet would attract even more of the other sex?

Bewilderbeast · 06/10/2007 21:05

I think you (the OP) are being very unreasonable. This is a parenting site. The internet is anonymous unless you choose to make yourself known so you will never know who is reading a particular site. We could all be teenage boys and you'd never know.

chipmonkey · 06/10/2007 21:08

2hot2cook, are you Anne from the Famous Five?

crunchie · 06/10/2007 21:26

2hot2cook you have been here less han a month. I am sorry if you feel uncomfortable but mumsnet was NEVER only about mums it was always about parents and IMHO I have no idea whether a post is from a man or woman, and tbh I don't care. Unless they mention they are male/female.

I have not read the 400+ posts on this thread as I am sure that I agree with most of them

I think you have your answer

YES you are being unsreasonable

bobsmum · 06/10/2007 21:27

psssst...tizzwizz - it's 2007

Original poster
2hot2cook · 06/10/2007 21:47

it seems most of you enjoy chatting to men you've never met, [Hmm] im not from the victorian era, just dont want to talk to men on the internet. if i did i could find millions of sites (as said earlier.) thought this was for mums thats all. maybe name sholud be changed to parentnet or something. i still feel uneasy that men are viewing whats being said on here, i know nothing can be done, but entitled to my views.

OP posts:
3andnogore · 06/10/2007 21:50

2cook, you do have a bit of a odd id for someone so opposed to online talking to men (and tbh, I have no problem to talk to men online, i.e. about parental issues, etc....that doesn't mean I would flirt with any man crossing my virtual path thogh )

TheArmadillo · 06/10/2007 21:52

talking to men you have never met is not exactly a stringing up offense ffs

What are you trying to imply about women who don't have a problem with it?

MEn are people too you know, they're the same species as us. They can also be parents, surprisingly.

You really have issues, seriously.

Or you're still in the mind of a 6yr old girl, who thinks 'boys ewww'.

YOu are seriously wierd.

BecauseImWereWolfit · 06/10/2007 21:52

You are, of course, entitled to your views. But given your views, and how fixed they are, then it would seem that this site is not for you.

Should the men who are a part of Mumsnet ever leave this site it would be a poorer place.

Therefore, using inescapable logic, it should be you who leaves and finds another site that is more to your taste.

Habbibu · 06/10/2007 21:53

Oh get stuffed, 2hot - yes, you're entitled to your views, but then to imply that the rest of us are a bunch of internet slappers is frankly a bit much. I like talking to men and women I've never met (well, mostly), and if a man reads my concerns over maybe getting a mooncup and being a bit clumsy IS THE SKY GOING TO FALL IN?

Snaf · 06/10/2007 21:53

I can safely say that my attraction/addiction to Mumsnet has nothing to do with 'chatting to men' I've never met. As you say, there are plenty of other places of the web where one can do that...

You seem to have serious trouble grasping the very simple fact that men and women use this site because they find it interesting, informative and often entertaining. I am interested to know why you continue to ascribe slightly dodgy motives to MNers, both male and female?

TheArmadillo · 06/10/2007 21:53

men dominated the internet when it first started, I expect they still do to a certain extent.

And I would like to repeat - you are really wierd.

3andnogore · 06/10/2007 21:53

still wondering about choice od id...I mean 2hot2cok...well...maybe my mind is in the gutter...lol...

lou33 · 06/10/2007 21:54

only read a few posts but LOL

how ridiculous

mn was called mn because it was set up by mums, but it does say by parents for parents, at the top of the page

that should be a big clue right there

Original poster
2hot2cook · 06/10/2007 21:54

nothing to do with flirting, just dont know why a man with a wife or partner would want to come on here and talk about anything. maybe single dads might need advice. ?

OP posts:
bobsmum · 06/10/2007 21:54

2hot2cook - do you even understand that the internet is accessible to all?

Elvis could be reading my posts for all I know.

You cannot regulate it.

How do you know I haven't been listening into your conversations at the local cafe?

Please think rationally about what you're typing!

My mum could be reading too - now that would be more embarrassing than my dh - although like I said - he comes on here anyway.

3andnogore · 06/10/2007 21:54

cook, not cok

3andnogore · 06/10/2007 21:56

2hot, probably erm....oh yes..here is a thought...the same reason why us women , someitmes happily married, like to post here....it's a parenting site with lots of parenting exchange....and gasp...men are also part of parenting...

honestly renaming would not change the clientel of this site, well, if anything, it would attract more of those men-creatures...

TheArmadillo · 06/10/2007 21:57

bobsmum I know for a fact that elvis is reading your posts - but only yours. He told me, sent a message from Venus.

Men are parents, therefore why should it be seen as wierd that they want to discuss parenting issues.

WIERDO

Habbibu · 06/10/2007 21:58

And I repeat, 2hot: the OP here should really convince you as to why men should be "allowed" on here.

fangsandflash · 06/10/2007 21:59

OP - yabu. I use facebook to chat to men LOL (not really but I could )

3andnogore · 06/10/2007 21:59

hing from the first page of the talk section about the philosophy:

A word about our philosophy
The idea of Mumsnet is that by pooling knowledge and experience, parents make each other's lives easier.

prettybird · 06/10/2007 22:01

I came to this site via mention/recommendtion on babyworld and never went back. For all I know, babyworld alos caters for parents of children who are no longer babies - as often happens with on-line communities.

I never really "noticed" the mumsnet name - what attracted me was the tagline "By parents for parents" and the quality of the advice on the talk boards - wahtever the sex of the contribuotr.

By 2hot2cook's logic, no man should ever enter Mothercare becasue of its name. The fact that it sells car seats, buggieschildren's clothes, and other general children paraphenalia which a man might also be interested in getting for his kids is beside the point

I've just told dh about this thread, 'cos he was asking "what the hell are you positng abou this time?". When I told him about the OP, his comment was "what a stupid cow".

tizzwhizz · 06/10/2007 22:01

AH Bloomin heck thanks for spotting that bobsmum - pregnancy brain, god help me and mumnetters that have to read my posts. I am only just over 5 weeks I will be a dribbling wreck by the end of the 9 months. Blame it on the tiredness (thats my excuse)

Even read it to dh (sorry 2hot) before posting dont know what his excuse is.

bobsmum · 06/10/2007 22:01

10pm - way past 2hot's bedtime - at least it's not a school night.