aibu to think mn should be for mums and not dads.

[2hot2cook]

id like to think that when i come on here for a quick chat im talking to other women. ive noticed some men on here and thats actually putting me off. some of the topics we talk about are very intimate. i cant understand why men would want to come on this website, maybe the name should be changed to parentnet. aibu.

Oh that is choice, 2hot2cook. You prefer a manly type of man, and you have one, currently picking his nether regions and grunting about the car.

You don't go for the wimpy sort that chat on forums. Which is fair enough. But you've already got Neil Anderthal, so what does it matter that you're not up for a 'new man'. No-one asked you to be.

Oi, you lot, don't be running down consciously feminine women, we're not all off our chump like 2hot2cook.

My friend died of cancer 2 years ago , leaving two DC's aged 4 and 7.

It would be very sad if her husband could not look on this site for tips/answers to problems he is having with the children since her death.

One of my mother's few really good bits of advice was that the Strong Silent type is usually Silent because he has bog-all to say.

Oh god yes, Snaf, 'feminine'. Even typing it has made the hair stand up on the back of my neck.

colditz, think men are great, would just like this site to be women only thats all.

but can see im the only one with this view. so have to concede.

How would that work though, 2hot? Would we have to produce birth certificates before joining? DNA tests? Vials of menstrual blood?

suebarrroooeeeeoeoeoeoeoeoee - i'm just jealous!!! i think feminine is great, i think butch it great, i think manly is phwooooaoarr . i think "new many" is great.

I think a manly man with the time and interest in his children to want to be discussing it with other PEOPLE is incredably attractive.

Actually, even though I consider my dh to be a "new man", I also consider him to be extremely" manly . The two are not* mutully exclusive

And yes, I would want my dh to come on here and get a woman's perspective on miscarriage, preganancy parenting or wahtever - espcially if it were to help him understand me and so help our relationship.

It is a sign of strength to ask for help and advice and not weakness.

snaf; impossible obviously. but would of thought the name mumsnet would be enough to put them off.

prettybird; i agree with you. but most men are uncomfortable talking about things like that. not sure a website is the answer if you are experiencing seriouse problems however, i would hope dh would have his family and close friends to turn to, or family doctor.

Well, clearly not. Those strange, unmanly freaks have seen through our cunning female ruse, penetrated our feminine mystique and I fear we may never be the same again...

Right, am off to watch sparkly frocks, fake tan and twirling...

300+ messages saying YABU - can we just do this now ?

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little; agree.

When I was feeling really awful about HG, my DP read all the replies I had had t a post, and went on the websites that were recc'd, I'd like to think that if I hadnt already asked then his love for me would have been enough for him to post to understand better.

Also, my DP is 6'4'', works out, has a practically iron stomach, is in love with his car and guitar and playstation3, drinks beer a few nights a week, burps, farts, etc.

He also strokes my hair to get me to sleep, will drive miles to find me chocolate covered raisins in the middle of the night, cooks dinner, washes up, vaccuums way more than I ever do, moisturises and dyes his hair.

Is he manly??

Cos I think he is ALL man, and wouldnt have him any other way.

... not all probelms are serious ones. And sometimes by being able to aks something silly anonymously, you can get a different persepctive beofre things get out of proportion.

And sometimes manly men (even new men) are embarassed talking aobut some things with freinds or family and can aks these questions more easily using the anonymity of the internet. And sometimes they might not have female friends who have expereinced chilbirth or pregnancy or miscarriage or diffulity conceiving or wahtever.

The whole point about a forum like this is that you can draw on such a wide specturm of expereinces and opinions

He sounds lovely Lorayn.

YABU.
you CANNOT control who reads your posts on here. In fact, NON-members can read them (they just can't post).
What do you want Mumsnet to do? Forbid men from registering? Would you prefer it if men were reading your posts anonymously?
If you don't want your posts read by certain groups of people then the only option you have is not to post.
I for one agree having a man's perspective is a good one. And I know some of the mumsnetters gave my DH(who is registered) some good advice on how to look after me when I suffered a m/c.

she gets it

But has she changed her mind???

[evil grin]

Oops sorry littlelapin, I don't see your post

didn't!!! Not don't... going to hide myself in shame now...

maybe someone would be able to answer the rather apposite thread from british beef about helping his wife to cope

dad's are parents too.with valid, funny experiences, opinions, good info, actually same as most MN posters

YAB(BLOODY)U

zippititppitippittiiptptppttitoes I've just been on that thread, thank goodness MN DOES allow men to post too. 2hot2cook I suggest you go read said thread and see if you still think men shouldnt be here.

2hot2cook - why should men do masculine things?
Football I think can be considered to be a masculine thing, but personally I hate football but know some women who love watching football(and some even play it). Should we ban female football watchers from mumsnet, because they are doing a more masculine thing?

I work as a substitute parent (though some would say 'substitute mother', as these days it still tends to be mums who stay at home and care for the children). I avoid threads on mumsnet which are not of interest to me (so that's a lot of them) but find that those aimed at my occupation are very relevant. Plus, as I have a vast amount of experience of caring for a large variety of children, some mums (or even dads) value my view, tips and suggestions.

So glad that the vast majority of posters on this thread think that dads should be able to post on mumsnet (though actually I'm not a day - perhaps I should pack my bags and leave )