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AIBU?

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Original poster

aibu to think mn should be for mums and not dads.

882 replies

2hot2cook · 06/10/2007 12:39

id like to think that when i come on here for a quick chat im talking to other women. ive noticed some men on here and thats actually putting me off. some of the topics we talk about are very intimate. i cant understand why men would want to come on this website, maybe the name should be changed to parentnet. aibu.

OP posts:
Original poster
2hot2cook · 06/10/2007 17:24

prettybird; i know men are affected by m/c and pregnancy, but i would'nt want my dh coming on here talking to other women about it.

hej; yes we are equal, but sometimes you just dont want men around. not unreasonable.

OP posts:
colditz · 06/10/2007 17:27

Yes you are! Why isn't this sinking in? We all think you are being completely unreasonable to want this website to be for women only! Is that not a hint that you are being unreasonable? You cannot bar 50% of society from discussing their offspring!

Just because you don't want your husband to do something doesn't mean anyone else cares who their husband talks to on a parenting website!

lucyellensmum · 06/10/2007 17:27

why wouldnt you want men around? i dont get it?

motherinferior · 06/10/2007 17:28

I don't get this. How in hell's name do you know if someone on the internet is male or female?

I am, in fact, a 62 year old retired Civil Servant called Eugene, with an extensive stamp collection and occasional shameful fantasies about rubber underwear, but you'd never know it from my posts.

Snaf · 06/10/2007 17:29

Actually, MI, we've always suspected...

motherinferior · 06/10/2007 17:31

And Snaf is a burly chap from the Gorbals.

Original poster
2hot2cook · 06/10/2007 17:31

lilibet; your dh is working with women, thats completely different. he cant help but talk to them. men that come on here choose to come on here and talk.
no, dont think on here to flirt, as i said earlier if thats what they want, millions of sites for that.
think its a bit sad that their on here quite honestly.

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lilibet · 06/10/2007 17:33

Why is it sad that they want to talk about their children to other parents????

And why is it not sad for a woman to do the same?

motherinferior · 06/10/2007 17:34

EH????

Why in hell's name is it SAD for blokes to be talking about parenting?????

I think it's far, far sadder, genuinely so, that so many women on MN appear to be in heterosexual relationships where it's assumed that both parenting and housework are intrinsically 'women's work'.

LyraSilvertongue · 06/10/2007 17:37

MI, apparently it's 'not manly'.

Original poster
2hot2cook · 06/10/2007 17:37

motherinferior; thats very true. i could be angelina jolie or a lardy arse with more chins than the hongkong phone book. who knows ?

OP posts:
colditz · 06/10/2007 17:38

I feel a little sorry for your husband, that he must maintain a macho image at all times or you will think he's 'sad'...

LyraSilvertongue · 06/10/2007 17:39

DP is interested in his children and therefore likes to talk about them to other parents. His fellow-parent colleagues (male and female) are always discussing their offspring.

Snaf · 06/10/2007 17:40

'a bit sad'? Really?

Sad that men can be interested enough in their children's welfare/upbringing/education/development/etc to want to talk about it with other parents?

Heavens. I find that pov a bit sad, tbh. Is becoming a parent really considered that emasculating, in your house?

haychEebeeJeebees · 06/10/2007 17:40

My dh sounds much the same as 2hot2cooks.
And i kinda get the idea of where she is coming from. My dh would consider it puffy to come on to a site like this, and he wouldnt have a single useful contribution to make anyway.
But, 2hot there are alot of men out there who are not at all like ours. Im glad of that, im glad they are here. Dont have a problem with it myself.

Dinosaur · 06/10/2007 17:40

motherinferior, you're coming across like one of those awful feminists, you know that?

colditz · 06/10/2007 17:41

Where's Greensleeves today?

motherinferior · 06/10/2007 17:41
Original poster
2hot2cook · 06/10/2007 17:46

colditz; some men want to stay men, thats all. not saying anything wrong with men being interested in their children, my dh is very interested, just short on time.

i prefer the stong silent type personally. dont think chatting on here with other women is manly. sorry.

OP posts:
Dinosaur · 06/10/2007 17:47
colditz · 06/10/2007 17:47

Well you are entitled to that honest, albeit lonely, voice of dissent against the opposite sex and their rights.

Is it womanly to work, or should we all be wiping backsides and getting our nails done in case our husbands think we're sad?

lucyellensmum · 06/10/2007 17:49

f*^$ a duck 2hot, you are coming over as a bit small minded now , more chins than???? OMG!!!

This is a PARENTING website, if you dont like the fact that there are men here go and log on to barbiegirl.com (just putting a bit of my own prejudice in there for good measure).

I remember going out with a group of freinds once, who just happened to be girls, my hubby said to me, oh when are you going on your Girlie night??? WTF? I promptly phoned one of my male friends to balance the books as it were.

This reminds me ofa world where, at a dinner party, the men would retire to the whatever room to smoke and drink brandy, while there women were left to do the dishes!!!

lucyellensmum · 06/10/2007 17:50

and "short on time" is a lamentable excuse

thomcat · 06/10/2007 17:51

OP - yabu

Snaf · 06/10/2007 17:51

God preserve us from 'manly' men (and 'feminine' women, for that matter...)