8 year ago, way before I met my DP, he was in a relationship with a woman (we'll call her 'Dawn') for about a year. Dawn then left my DP to get back with her ex (we'll call him Dave). There was a cross-over period where she was seeing both my DP and Dave and she played them off against each other. Therefore, she cheated on my DP. Dawn soon decided she'd made a mistake and came running back to my DP. He told her no and that he wasn't interested. Dawn then went back to Dave.
A few years later, Dawn reached out to my DP. She admitted she regrets her decision and know she "picked the wrong man". She apologised to my DP for how she treated him. He accepted her apology and they remained friends.
Dawn and Dave live together and they have a 6 year old son. Dawn and I have a mutual friend (Dawn's sister in law) who told me that Dawn is miserable living with Dave, and although they live together, they are actually separated.
Skip forward to 2018. I met my DP and we have been very happy together for 2 years. Right at the start of our relationship, the mutual friend told Dawn that I had just started seeing my DP. Dawn tried to cause trouble claiming that my DP had been trying to get back with her whilst he was courting me! My DP was furious. He said it was lies and explained that he and Dawn messaged each other occasionally as friends and would comment on each others social media posts and that was all. He shamefully admitted that he took a bit of satisfaction in knowing that Dawn has always wanted him back, but she couldn't have him as he was now the one rejecting her. He blocked Dawn on his social media accounts and said he would have nothing further to do with her.
A little while later, the mutual friend told me that Dawn had admitted to her that it wasn't true and she just said it out of jealousy.
Skip forward to 2020.
The mutual friend and Dawn have become very close. They spend a lot of time together.
My DP and I are pregnant with our first and we just announced our news on social media. My DP shared my post with the comment "Proud Daddy moment xxxx".
Dawn is not friends with me or DP on Facebook. However, of course, Dawn has mutual friends with both of us. It's very likely someone has shown her the post. In fact, I'm almost certain a mutual friend will have.
A few days later and the mutual friend puts up a Facebook post about one of her daughters achievements. Dawn commented "Proud Auntie moment xxxx".
Right, so.. "Proud XXXXXX moment" is a common sentence in both circumstances, but it just struck me when I read it. Whenever my DP message me, he ALWAYS ends the message with "xxxx", just like he has done on his post announcing our pregnancy news.
I can see a lot of Dawn's posts on my mutual friends Facebook wall. She ALWAYS ends her messages with "xx" ....except for the one post from today which has "xxxx", exactly the same as my DPs.
The mutual friend has always said Dawn can never be happy for anyone else and she can be spiteful and loves to try and stir up a bit of drama.
I just can't shake the feeling that she has purposely written that comment to..... well, I'm not really sure why.... but it's rattled me a little. I feel it is slying aimed at me to try and cause some doubt/anxiety etc.
Also.. my mutual friend and I are close. However, since she has become increasingly close to Dawn, I am finding I no longer reveal as much info as I used to when we chat. I hold stuff back. She has told me the odd personal thing about Dawn.. I don't want her doing the same with my personal information. She's never given me any reason to doubt her trust before.. but I'm finding it hard to trust her now after she has decided to become to very friendly with someone she knows can be a spiteful horrible person.
What do you think ladies?
Do I have a point?
Or am I being a paranoid pregnant lady and I need to let it go and just trust my friend?