To hate being alone?

[TheAppleTree]

AIBU to hate being alone?

I actively seek to never spend a moment alone - if I know I’m going to be at home whilst everyone else is out I will either invite a friend/family member over or go and visit them.

If I ever do end up being at home alone for whatever reason, I will spend the entire time calling or FaceTiming various friends/family members until someone gets home.

Everyone I know IRL (well the ones I’ve spoken to about this anyway) loves a bit of ‘me time’ on their own - my best friend has recently gone to the extreme of checking herself into a hotel for the night purely to achieve this.

Am I normal? Is there anyone else out there who feels like this?

Just curious really.

What is it you dislike about your own company? It sounds very demanding of other people's time.

I need at least one morning/afternoon/evening to myself a week, either to stay in and have a bath and a pamper, read, watch a series or film that my boyfriend wouldn't like (and would talk through), or take myself off for a long walk with an audio book and lunch out in a nice cafe.

I wouldn't describe myself as normal though

I used to be like that, but one day I just switched out of nowhere, and love the chance to be alone. I don’t know what changed but I didn’t think I was weird before, and had a wide range of friends and family so wasn’t demanding of people’s time like a pp suggests. So long as you aren’t torturing people I see nothing wrong with this.

That doesn't sound at all healthy.

Since you ask - no i don't think most people are unable to tolerate their own company.

I know one friend who won't sleep in the house alone & moves to her parents (1 hr away) if her DH is away.

i'm fine with being alone and often need 'alone time' to recharge. I also like being around other people (e.g. in cafe / at home etc) but not actively engaged in conversation. Sometimes I find conversation very tiring, and it is nicer to share a space but not have to engage.

I’m the complete opposite.

Happier on my own and every minute I have to spend with other people is a challenge.

I have a friend who uses a bunch of us to "fill the gaps" when she doesn't want to be on her own.

We all find it tiresome and frankly quite insulting.

No I don’t think this is common or healthy op to be honest.

I'm the same OP - whilst I can be alone, I'd rather not be. Whenever I am alone I keep myself busy - doing extra hours for work or cleaning the house.

Like you, I visit, invite or call family and friends whenever I know I'll be home alone

I’d be looking to actively change this OP, but that’s just me.

Apart from anything else, you are missing so much potential happiness. Being alone is so peaceful and productive. People with no hobbies, who spend all their time “being with other people”/chatting... I just find it a bit sad

It's healthy to have time to yourself. You sound quite needy.

How do you feel at the prospect of spending time alone? If you couldn’t get anyone else on FaceTime etc how would you be?

Well, YANBU but I think it is quite unusual.

What is it about being alone you don't like? Are you afraid of something? Are you not able to read a book or watch a film and get lost in it?

I do know someone like this but to be honest she has a host of MH problems.

I love being on my own, need a lot of alone time but weirdly now someone has mentioned it, I would absolutely hate to sleep in the house on my own. It hasn’t been an issue for many years now I suppose but if dh and the dc went away or whatever I really wouldn’t like it.

To be quite frank my husband is like you OP. I am the complete opposite, I long to just be in my own company and have that peace and quiet. I just couldn't imagine having to be around people or speaking to someone at all times. That would really be quite damaging to my mental health

I was like that even after dd1 was born but after dd2&3 I began to like my own company. I always put it down to being a twin but my sister died when we were young.

I am so excited for all the kids to back at school/partner back at work so I can be by myself for a few hours after months and months.
A little bit of peace and quiet is glorious no?

I love being on my own, but then thats probably because I'm never alone really, so the odd time I am its bliss, but no, that sounds quite unhealthy. What is it you don't like about being alone?