To not send DD to school this week?

[SuperEkstra]

DD hasn't had the easiest time at her primary school, and has absolutely loved lockdown. For various reasons we have decided to move her. We found out today that she has a place starting Monday.

She went into her old school this morning (before I found out about new place). It was awful; she has ASD and is very anxious, none of the transition things were in place as requested (another reason for leaving the school).

WIBU to keep her off from school now I til she starts new school on Monday? She's Y3.

YANBU in the slightest. There’s no reason to send her back at all unless she’d like to maybe pop in and say goodbye to a few people? If not have a lovely couple of days at home with her before she starts her new school.

Yanbu at all

Oh god yes. Keep her off until Monday to start new school. No need for her to be in current/old school this week. DS has asd. School said they were going to send him some stuff to prepare him for this year. They haven't. He isn't due back until Monday but I've heard nothing. I know they are busy busy! But he has a a social story, photos etc each year when he moves from one year another. Needed even more so now with covid changes in school. 🤷‍♀️

I would definitely keep her off til Monday

No. Lots of schools dont start til Monday anyway.

YANBU absolutely nothing to be gained from her having a horrible 2 days at a school she's leaving.

I was ready to come on and say yanbu as I thought this would be covid-related but no, what possible good could it do sending her in. Do some lovely chilled stuff with her and let her have a fresh start on Monday!

Has she been to the new school? Maybe use the time for. Walk round?

YADNBU. I hope that she has a much better experience at her new school.

Definitely keep her off - our children don't even go back until Monday. Hope she loves her new school!

YANBU - absolutely no point sending her for two days. Give her a nice long weekend before she starts at her new school on Monday :)

Definitely keep her off till Monday!

Oh gosh, thanks all! New school is practically literally on our little road (we moved just before lockdown). I'm so happy to have a place - today was the final straw in terms of the old one; she was silently crying as she went in (she's an angel, will always do as she's told) as she was so frightened. The new TA treated her like an inconvenience.

We will have a lovely day tomorrow and her dad will do something nice with her Friday! She's even happy about the uniform change current school has a tie and blazer which she has sensory issues with! New school is normal, polo and sweatshirt!

*not practically literally! Practically next door, literally on our little road

Poor girl. I hope that she's a much happier child in her new school and gets the staff that she deserves.

What should I tell old school when I let them know she's not coming in?! The truth?

YANBU at all OP. And yes, I would tell them the truth. That they have failed to meet agreed expectations in terms of transition arrangements, treated her as an inconvenience, caused her a significant degree of anxiety and you therefore feel it would be wise to keep her at home until Monday.

I hope she has a much happier time at the new school.

Thanks everyone - she was so happy when I told her we had a place at a new school. It was clearly even harder than I thought, for her

Please, do tell them the truth. They need to hear it.

I'm also worried that they might try and fine me for the next couple of days?

My school kids aren't going back till Monday anyway - my son isn't - some are starting tomorrow, some Friday, then the rest over the next week (I think it's Wednesday whole school)

OP they wont fine you, honest.

Yes not unreasonable. Please tell the school your child is leaving though, for the kindness of not wanting other children in a similar position who do not have the option you have to go through the same thing.