Online dating is so boring

[Phillycheesesteak]

Anyone else?
Lots of boring men and boring messages that lead no where. I think some people just want a counsellor. The amount of effort is pitiful. I've deleted my account. It's actually quite sad that most people cant make conversation

Omg match.com is actually terrifying

@NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1

I think online dating has had its day to be honest. Better to meet people naturally.

This is a lot more difficult nowadays with social distancing etc. I’m single after 12 years. I don’t really have anywhere to meet someone. For a start everyone is staying far apart. Can’t just head to my local for a drink as they don’t allow groups to mix. No hobby clubs to join. I suppose there is Tesco, but it’s a hardly a breeding ground for lovely single 40 something men at 10am on a Tuesday So for now I’ll just persevere with the apps!

Oh ladies these are my thoughts exactly!

I signed up after becoming single from a 10 year marriage.

Messages with only one word answers, poor spelling, no interest in what I've put on my profile or what I've said.... that is if they reply to your message in the first place. I've lost count of how many messages I've sent only to be ignored. Totally fine if you're not what someone is looking for but at least say hi and thanks but no thanks...

How anyone meets anyone decent through the sites is well and truly beyond me - I am more than willing to listen to success stories!!!!!

I do agree that it seems men join but actually don't want to talk to or meet anyone?! Whats that all about???!

I tried it for the first time this year and ended up deleting my accounts two weeks ago. I’ve never had any cock photos but I’m so sick of being ghosted. You spend so much time and effort commenting on stuff from their profiles and I think very few even read yours. I was starting to feel bad about myself even though I know I’m a good one and I deserve to meet a good one. I’ll give it a try again next year. It’s highly unlikely you’ll meet someone any other way when you’re a single working parent.

I feel the same thefourgp

@thefourgp

I tried it for the first time this year and ended up deleting my accounts two weeks ago. I’ve never had any cock photos but I’m so sick of being ghosted. You spend so much time and effort commenting on stuff from their profiles and I think very few even read yours. I was starting to feel bad about myself even though I know I’m a good one and I deserve to meet a good one. I’ll give it a try again next year. It’s highly unlikely you’ll meet someone any other way when you’re a single working parent.

@thefourgp this is me! Ghosted all the time!

I do sometimes wonder if when they say they're separated they're actually not and are still hanging onto their marriage but just want to see what's out there IYSWIM?

@champagnesupernovainthesky you could be right. I think a lot of people think it’s okay to ghost someone because it’s so common but I don’t. If you’ve spent time talking with someone face to face you wouldn’t just walk past them in the street. The same principle applies. If I lose interest in someone I politely say that I don’t see things going any further and wish them the best of luck finding someone else. It’s basic manners.

@CatFaceCats This is my problem too.

I did join an online local group during lockdown with a view to go to the real life sessions once they started up again but now the group has completely closed down and won't be restarting for the forseeable. It seemed a good way to get out and meet new people so it's a shame.

Does speed dating still exist?! I do remember my friend meeting someone through that.

Oh God I’d forgotten about speed dating! And traffic light parties. I can’t imagine they still exist do they? It seems such a shame that OLD has taken away so much of the excitement of getting to know someone organically. I know it does still happen, particularly when you’re younger. I’m in my mid 30’s and all my friends of similar ages who have divorced/ never settled down are just meeting people through OLD. I’ve been doing it a month and it’s just destroying my self esteem and faith in men.