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AIBU?

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AIBU to expect some time for ‘us’

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Birdladybird · 01/09/2020 22:17

DH and I work together and have worked 6 days per week for the last 3 months, 12 hour days. We have one day off a week which we always use to go out for lunch and we have always had at least one other couple with us.

2 days ago we were talking about how we needed to spend more time together just the two of us and agreed we would go to different places on our day off now and just the two of us.

Tonight he was messaged by a friend asking if he and his wife could join us on Monday. DH agreed without asking me. They are a nice couple but Im so peed off with him. We were out with them 3 weeks ago so it’s not like we need to catch up! He’s gone off in a huff saying that we can go out the week after and that I’m being unreasonable, but it’ll just be the same then. Someone else will message. I work in hospitality and just want some down time, just the two of us, without having to have someone else there I have to make conversation with. I never feel like I can relax, like I always have to perform.

He just said ‘well I’ll message and tell them not to come’, made a huge fuss and made me feel guilty for complaining. AIBU? I’m feeling quite upset the more I type, it’s like he doesn’t want to spend time with me alone.

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LouiseTrees · 01/09/2020 22:47

Just tell him you’ll go this time but he must consult you if the plans involve you and take away from relationship/ “us” time.

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