My parents are so forceful!!

[EllieToday]

So, me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years and we've decided that towards the end of October were going to buy our own house. So, we've both made the decision to save as much money as possible and not go on holidays/spend unnecessarily.

However, mid-October my parents are going away with my grandparents and initially we were invited. We've told them were not going to go because it's more important to us to get a house and have as much money as possible.

Tonight, my mum has asked me for the 12th/13th time if we can come in October!! She's been making me feel so guilty about not coming but they've rented all their lives and I feel like they don't understand that we've had to save a deposit (just over £16,000!!) She's telling me all sorts like, "we don't see you anymore!!" And "all you do is work"...

Am I being unreasonable?
She's hurting my feelings and she knows she is.
It's such a guilt trip and I really don't know what to do!! We never do anything together anymore and she's basically just told me, "well come on holiday with us then!!"...

What do I do?!

I think in which case you are being completely and utterly reasonable!

You can't afford it, and your mum is not respecting that. In this case you can be more blunt with her, have you told her how annoying she is being?

@Timeforabiscuit

I think in which case you are being completely and utterly reasonable!

You can't afford it, and your mum is not respecting that. In this case you can be more blunt with her, have you told her how annoying she is being?

Yeah I've 100% told her we can't go, my partner hasn't got anymore days left to use and were more focused on having time to move in even if he did have any days left, I told her "mum, this is the 12/13th time you've asked me, we seriously can't go" and she accused me of snapping and being horrible...

Your mother is trying to Sabotage your efforts to to better yourself and get on in life, she may or may not be conscious of this.
Accusing you of being irritable when you point out her unreasonable behaviour is a 'DARVO' move... you try to block her attempt to Sabotage and she counter attacks by accusing you of being irritable.
Don't respond to the attacks just say you've made your decision and you're not going to discuss it further.
You're an adult and you can make your own choices.