So where is the line when joking about with friends and colleagues. I accept there will often be some banter between males but when does that cross the line in your opinion.
I saw husband’s texts (on an iPad that is linked to his phone that we both use). Text from him to a mate joking about “Just drunk and looking at my name’s friends arse”.It was a night my friend was over my house visiting so out kids could play together. I saw the notification of a text reply and looked at the conversation because it was obviously them talking about a woman so ....like I could stop myself (I’m not normally a snooper).
Aibu to be annoyed about that text? Or is that part of ‘banter’ between males.
To add context I don’t think for a second anything has or would happen between them, I’m more annoyed about the joke. I personally would feel it was crossing a line if I made that joke to a friend, so to find out he thinks it’s acceptable is annoying. Also part of me lost a bit of respect...I mean he’s not an 18 year old, he’s in his mid thirties.
On top of this because I saw the text on the iPad I feel like I can’t mention it because it’s like I looked though his text even though I came up in his Ipad. So not sure how to raise it. Normally I’d just say “hey you said x and it was out of order” but don’t feel like I can do that!