Changing plans

[louisiana30]

Think I probably am being unreasonable and just need told from others.
My dad is 70 in the next couple of weeks, and pre Covid there had been plans to go away for a 4 night break. So my dad, mum, sister, my husband and son (9) and me.
We decided to have a week at their house and eat out, visit places to walk etc instead of going away.
The plan was always to take my son out of school but get work for him to do during the day.

My husband has now said that he’s not taking our son out of school and they have haircuts that week. So we will go Saturday and Sunday then back down for the Thursday night till Saturday.

I shouldn’t be upset at this should I?

Schools are not likely to authorise that considering the amount of schooling already missed and the likely disruption this term. I would suggest that you all go on Saturday then dh brings your son back while you spend a few days with your parents and sister then they rejoin you at the end of the week. That way you get to spend some time with your father, you won't need to adapt plans for 9yr old. Dh was always going to have that time off presumably so he can do the school run for a few days if that would normally be your task.

I don’t think now is the right time to be taking children out of school really. can you not just go for a weekend and then longer at half term?

I agree with the above, given the amount of schooling that has been missed, I don’t really think it’s the right time to be pulling children out of school, and it likely wouldn’t be authorised by the school.

Maybe as @TW2013 suggested, see if dh can take the children back home and you can spend some time with your family and return home after they do.

They have missed so much schooling and schools will be trying to instil routine back into the kids, they certainly don't need kids missing more school if they can help it. Go Friday after school until Sunday.

Yeah knew I was wrong. No no chance in the October break as I’m working. My husband never booked any time off for it anyway. I just stupid for feeling so sad

How far away do they live? its a bit unreasonable to take your son out of school at the start of term when they have missed so much. Surely a weekend is enough?

My husband never booked any time off for it anyway.

Sounds as if he didn't want to go anyway. I would still try to stay a few days without them. Your ds is 9, your dh should be able to figure out some childcare for a few days.

Just going to go till Sunday evening now
They are only 2 hours away any how do I get that it’s not too important to spend the week with them

• I do get