To ask if good looking single mums have an easier time getting dates

[NoahandLucy1]

I know lots of men aren't keen on dating single mums, fair enough. I am a single mum of 2 young DC and don't seem to have any luck. My best friend is also a single mum of 2 young DC and seems to have no problem whatsoever and men chasing her left, right and centre! I like to think we are both nice people, the only difference, she is extremely beautiful and I am average. :(

My point here, men don't seem to have a problem dating a single mum, if she is good looking?

Well good looking people have always had an easier time getting dates and always will.

Don't compare yourself to others, just concentrate on your own strengths.

Where are you trying to meet people?

You’re probably right, good looking people do get more attention.

Of course its easier to get dates if youre good looking

Yes but that’s true with anyone. I’m a single mum and I have no trouble getting dates if I want them online etc. but I haven’t actually met anyone really nice for a long term relationship

@motheroreily

Where are you trying to meet people?

Hi motheroreily, I have only tried online dating so far

Good looking women will always get more dates and such, personality makes zero difference, especially online.
Profile photos are the thing makes someone click the profile. Then they'll not read the info and send a message.
It's why the women that can't hold a conversation will still get dates.

I think in general good-looking people get dates more easily via online dating, random meetings in bars etc, but I don't necessarily think it affects whether you actually meet a partner or not. One of my most attractive friends can't seem to get beyond a first date and she's lovely.

Actually if you look at statistics published by online dating sites they reckon really good looking people dont get more dates rather, they get less as people are intimidated and feel they are out of their league. Really its all about personality. The better your personality you will get a date.

Online dating is primarily about looks initially, isn’t it? You’re going off a photograph. I’m not agreeing that you’re less physically attractive than your friend btw!

@Shaniac

Actually if you look at statistics published by online dating sites they reckon really good looking people dont get more dates rather, they get less as people are intimidated and feel they are out of their league. Really its all about personality. The better your personality you will get a date.

They might get fewer dates, sure...but they are getting dates. There's only seven days in the week. People don't need dozens of messages a day - just the few that count and turn into something.

I agree on personality - plenty of so-called average looking people do just fine on online dating because they're able to tailor their descriptor beyond "I like going out to bars and restaurants and love a night out, but I also like sitting indoors with a bottle of wine too".

It sounds terribly old fashioned, but could you join some sort of evening club and meet people like we used to do in the olden days? What about a running club? There are 2 couples in our club that got together this way. Or some sort of hobby?

@Shaniac

Actually if you look at statistics published by online dating sites they reckon really good looking people dont get more dates rather, they get less as people are intimidated and feel they are out of their league. Really its all about personality. The better your personality you will get a date.

I really doubt that to be honest.

There's so many blogs and YouTube videos that say exactly the opposite.
Personal experience is opposite too. Photos of average me, get no messages. Same description but a prettier photo, loads of messages.

I online dated and it was really easy to get dates to be honest.

I could decide whether it was someone who I was only interested in going out to have a good time with- thus they know it's a fun only thing. Or I could decide if it was someone I was interested in potentially introducing to my family later down the line.

Different men were interested in either option.

Single mums are a GREAT dating option. We have less time for bullshit.

Wouldn't say I'm a 'stunner' either. Probably quite an acquired taste but found it very easy.

Well theres quiet a few studies that say its true and it was true for me. Im ugly as fuck but i had dates every single day because im funny as fuck irl and ive never been short of attention because of it.

I'm a single parent and I get asked out a lot. I'm not looking for a relationship though so I don't really date. I'm not on dating websites, the people who ask me out are all in real life.

I'm definitely not beautiful, I think I can be attractive when I'm make the effort but I'm not a stunner. I'm a stone overweight for a start.

I think it's personality. I'm outgoing and chatty, I'm confident in myself and like to have a laugh. I'm 30 so still fairly young. I get asked out by younger men usually!

Yes I would have thought it was obvious. Also someone might not want to date a single mother but if they are stunning will be more likely to make an exception than if say average looking.

@Shaniac

Well theres quiet a few studies that say its true and it was true for me. Im ugly as fuck but i had dates every single day because im funny as fuck irl and ive never been short of attention because of it.

Or you weren't fussy at all.

Is there any need to put "Single mum of 2 young children" on your online dating profile? I'd be concerned that (some) men might target you for undesirable reasons.
Couldn't that be discussed later if you were to start a back and forth conversation?*

*disclaimer: I know nothing about online dating so just speculating.

smileyclare Dating once you're a bit older and/or you have dc is a number game, you need to kiss a few frogs to have any chance of finding a long term relationship, so joining a club just to try to meet someone is unlikely to work. A few men have joined a group I'm part of looking to meet women and it's very obvious and they soon leave. On line dating is the answer really, when you're juggling work and kids, it's very different to dating in your 20s.

I've found good look people get more first dates.

Actually nice, interesting people get more second dates.

Hold your head up, OP. Who's to say who's average looking and who isn't? You have your own strengths and your friend has hers, try not to overthink it.

More interest? Maybe.
Better quality? Questionable.

Fair point TeaOneSugar Based on accounts from people on here, online dating sites seem to be full of liars and weirdos who are after one night stands or are married. I've probably formed a skewed opinion though It does strike me that it's all purely based on a 2 second snap judgment of someone's photo.

All I can advise Op is to put an extremely flattering airbrushed photo of yourself online Op and then attempt to filter out the arseholes that reply!

Don’t compare yourself to her.

Beauty attracts more men, so it’s natural she will get more dates!

It doesn’t mean she’ll find the right man.

Focus on your own happiness, health and self presentation.