Hi
Posting here for traffic rather than a traditional AIBU, I know I’m being a bit unreasonable....
I have a DS who is ten and two younger children, my son is going into year 6 and I need to start giving him more independence, ie: walking to school with friends, popping to the shop. He can walk to school in 15 mins, safe village with no major roads.
The problem is I’m super anxious, he’s fairly sensible and in my rational brain I know the likelihood is he will be fine. However for background, I lost my first son as a baby and all my pregnancies were IVF and I had a long and difficult journey to parenthood. I still feel in some way that I won’t get to keep my existing children and that something awful will happen. I worried when they were babies but I’m not overly anxious generally and I’ve had extensive therapy and work in mental health so understand, but I can’t seem to get a grip on this.
I’ve left him home alone for 15 mins at a time which was difficult but ok. I suppose what I’m hoping for is some advice about how to feel more confident in this as I feel like I’m holding him back especially as his friends are now going out more independently. It’s not just my DS, I think I’ll be the same with my other children too, so really want to get a grip on it without being a wreck everytime they go out as they grow up.
Thanks in advance