To want to have my hair cut and coloured professionally

[grannyslippers]

DH has discovered I pay about £70 to have my hair cut and coloured (which is why I only go about 4 times a year) and thinks its too expensive given we are on one income etc.etc.

Thing is if I go to a cheaper salon, I will lose the recipe for that Redken colour which I really like and actually looks nice. AIBU to want to have decent looking hair and stick with what I know? Is salon colour a ridiculous luxury?

I have got 2 inches of greying roots now so becoming urgent.

hifi, im never horrible honest but i said i thought you were being devious and on reflection i could see you wern't. And on even more reflection, ive spent Family allowance on me loads of time, so i was being more hypocritical than horrible. And then i thought by deleting the thread ive made it worse because now you will think ive been calling you a wicked evil bitch and i havent Should i stop digging??

70K for a car?? More than reasonable if you ask me (in my dreams), im a bit of a petrol head which is unreasonalbe as i cant actually drive!! is it the audi a8 - droooll!!!!

thanks lucyellensmum

I think a professional haircut and colour is a basic female human need - along with new boots every winter. I pay about £150 to have my hair cut and coloured - and I have it done more than 4 times a year (compared to a lot of my friends I am low maintenance!).

NO! In a word, you're worth it! You can't let that go, cut down on food instead

I feel simply fabulous after a hairdo it's worth every single penny. It's an essential item imho. Especially if you don't get to splash out on shoes and clothes.

even if i was lying in a gutter starving i'd still have a good colour on.

I'm not that big on "grooming", but I do agree this is something that can make a big difference to your confidence and happiness and really isn't that huge an expense, considering it's something you wear every day. Nothing compared to what some people spend in a few months on cigarettes, takeaway coffees or beauty products.

I used to have my hair coloured once in a while, then stopped when pg, and have only just started again recently and it's great - I'd forgotten how much better it makes me feel. Yes it's trivial when it boils down to it, but then so are loads of things.

I also think a lot of men really have no idea at all what these things cost - I know my DP expects my haircuts to cost roughly the same as his, i.e. £5 in a manky barbers. I don't have to tell him how much it is as we have separate incomes and I definitely wouldn't ever tell him I part with over £100 for the full cut and highlights (though like you it's not very often).

I'd offer some kind of compromise eg you'll get it coloured less often, or look for a cheaper place, but don't stop.

You have to wear your hair everyday, the same with glasses if you wear them too. So it's different than spending on shoes, clothes etc. That's my arguement for spending on my hair anyway.

I spend £115 on cut/highlights 4 times a year - like Jo in Little Women, my hair is my only beauty...

Dont do makeup, or any products really, so think this isnt extravagent, and it makes me feel fab, and set up for a client facing job in the city.

reviving this thread because I only had time to lurk on it.
Grannyslippers - have you had your hair seen to yet?

I think it's a difficult one, as when we are going through a dodgy financial patch one of the things I economise on first is having professional hair cuts. I always colour my hair at home. I usually have my hair cut four times a year maximum - between £25 - 40.00 each time. Dh and I both work, I earn more than him (but not massively so) and I do the household finances.

Are you sure that you and your dh are living beyond your present means? You don't want to work till next year (and as you are really needed at home it is totally understandable why this is so) so you and your dh need to adjust your outgoings. I am awful at this, but know it is necessary.

You and your dh need to look at your personal spending on everything that isn't a bill or an essential and IMO that includes professional haircuts. I am not saying you should go without a haircut but you can get haircuts for a lot less than £70.00.

Also, your dh could be trying to tell you that your finances are more precarious than you imagine - hence the stopping haircuts talk. Either that, or he is unreasonably trying to make you economise while not economising himself. Whatever, you need to talk this through.