Annoyed at dh aibu?

[StormsDontLastForever]

Annoyed at dh! He owns an Xbox, buys latest games for it, ordered earphones at £120!!!!! I don't normally complain as he works hard. Saturday he has planned a day out with "the boys" his track record is he can never go out for few drinks and come home. I feel stressed about this, due to COVID, money reasons and his track record. I was booked in to have my hair done this week but cancelled due to saving money, dd birthday also in 2 weeks, still got some presents to buy and live through the rest of the month. Had a busy day today, family member in hospital, I'm allocated visitor, now have a migraine, feel pi**ed off want to cry and he's sitting on the couch eating his dinner and moaning "not as if u have had a hard day" aibu to be annoyed he still wants to go on "boys day out this weekend"! Tried speaking to him about it and he won't budge, he's going and that's it!

What's his track record? Staying out till early hours? Being hungover the next day?.
Does he go out often?.
I understand where you are coming from if he gets all this stuff for himself and you're left to buy your kids birthday presents.
If he will get the kids presents as well as you and doesn't go out often I cant see the problem.
If my partner didn't help with the birthday presents and expected to go out two weeks before then I would be annoyed.
Depends on all the questions above.

As for the hard day comment.... cheeky fucker. Sometimes you can just feel poorly and have a bad day. He should comfort you.

Sorry should have been more clear in my first post.

He physically cannot go out for a few beers and come home, he rips the ar*e right out it, turns his phone off, doesn't tell me where he is etc then strolls I'm absolutley legless at 4am then lies in bed all day with a hangover.

I'm just having a crap day today, it just seems everything he wants he gets. There has been a rise in number of COVID cases where I live also. Maybe I'm being selfish.

Someone is being selfish but it definitely isn't you!

@conduitoffortune thank you. I am feeling miserable tonight and this has just added to it. I am in no way controlling or anything but wish I could somehow say to him you're not going 🤣 he's going to go anyway and doesn't see any bad in it. It's just the principle of it all, we aren't well off with money, we struggle monthly as it is.

I wouldn't be happy if my partner would turn his phone off and stroll in legless, I wouldn't do that to him and I expect to be treated with the same respect.
It's a hard one. Your not saying that he isn't allowed to go but there should at least be a discussion about it and he hears you out. Makes sure he doesn't leave you worried and promises to send maybe a text or two.

Sometimes I'd like to see what they would do if we done the same thing to them.

You need a better way to organise your budget.

We have 'pocket money' because DH likes beer and I like very expensive sunglasses. What used to happen is DH would buy beer every week and I would think 'what a waste of money' and I wouldn't buy anything like that. Then maybe twice a year I would buy expensive sunglasses and DH would think 'OMG 500 quid on sunglasses, she's mad'.

Now, we both get a certain amount of cash, he spends his on beer and crap, I save mine up for accessories and we've both happy.

In your case he is both buying beer and accessories so I don't think he will like this. Presents for children are shared pot.