To think that some birthday cards are beyond dark humour and are actually a bit mean...

[LynnThese4reSEXPEOPLE]

I've seen several today that made me think "I'd be upset if I received that." I'm not easily upset and have a very dark sense of humour. Examples are;
"What's the difference between you and recycling? - Everyone likes recycling."

"Every week is bread week when you have no self control and hate yourself." (Or words to that effect).

Am I being a total snowflake?

It's ok not to like them OP, others will think them hilarious.

No, you’re not a snowflake. I find a lot of greetings cards pretty crappy these days. Unkind, or sometimes just plain rude. I like a funny card and gentle teasing, but I also try to think of where it may be displayed and who all may read it. I actually had to toss one which a male relative sent to DH as I just couldn’t think about explaining it to MIL😱

I don’t think either of those are funny but overall I do prefer funnier cards, sentimental ones never ring true for me... I guess someone will read these and laugh! You just have to hope that they know the recipient enough to know they’d laugh too.

I remember receiving a card when I was being really badly bullied at school and by my much older sibling and their new spouse, one parent was drifting in and and out of my life picking me up and dropping me and an addict relative with a personality disorder was being really abusive towards me. It had been a running joke in my family that I was a “mistake”, a contraception failure. I genuinely felt like I shouldn’t have been born and that there was something fundamentally wrong with me.

A classmate’s parent thought it was funny to buy a card to give to me that said,

“On the day you were born, the angels got together and said...

“We made a bit of a fuck up with this one guys”

whilst my sibling sent the following card:

“I keep telling everyone what a beautiful, kind, lovely sister I have....

But none of them want you either!”

Really made me feel even more shit that people would deliberately choose my birthday to twist the knife in further.

I'd only get them for someone where it was so obvious it was in no way true and we had a great relationship.

@NameChange84 that's awful

This why cards with just a picture and nothing inside are so popular.

"What's the difference between you and recycling? - Everyone likes recycling."

I would throw that straight in the bin. Apart from the really weird sentiment, it's not even funny, OR witty. Cos why recycling as the comparison?! You could put any word in there that most people like. Pathetic. I don't think there's much money to be made in card design these days, there's clearly a lot of talentless people working in that area.

The best ones are the ones you make yourself online uploading photos etc. Too many shop-bought ones are just full of really old, lame jokes....

@NameChange84 that's horrible - and exactly what I mean. As I say - I have a really dark sense of humour normally, and I'm struggling to imagine anyone finding these cards funny.

@CurlyhairedAssassin it was on recycled paper - but I think it was a bit of a reach even so...

such shit cards nowadays and pa to boot., who creates this rubbish ? more to the point who buys them ??

I did fine a perfect card for DH which he will appreciate greatly and references an in joke we have.

it was a bit of a reach even so...

Yes, totally scraping the bottom of the barrel of original greetings card concepts.

Some of these on here are horrible. Namechange84 that really was awful.

I always pick out the least inoffensive cards I can for people or ones with animals on if they are dog or cat loving person. I'd never send anything rude and I've seen some really rude ones in the past in shops that have made me wince a bit!

I’ll never forget a birthday card my mum gave me when I was a developing teenager, changing shape and mortified about my weight (I wasn’t fat but definitely filling out and very self conscious about it).

I was a picture of a sheep, with the slogan ‘ewe’s not fat, ewe’s just fluffy’. I cried all day over that. She and I are NC these days as it was just one of many mean things she did over the years.

They're not my thing but some people find it funny. As long as they're bought for people who would laugh... When in doubt, buy something safer. Better a boring card than a hurtful one.

YANBU. Some of them are PA bullshit.

My husband always buys his brother ‘jokey’ cards that I think are awful but they seem to like and laugh at them! Good job we are all different.

I think the problem with them is send them to the right person and they can find them very funny. But they can also be used to make a nasty point.

I was tempted by one for my mil "Outside she looked calm, but inside her stomach was churning: Could she really marry a man who wore socks with his sandals."
She would have found that funny because fil likes socks with sandals whatever she says to him and she loves him anyway.

But generally I wouldn't buy jokey ones because you don't know if you're poking a sore point already.