Large scale sleepovers before school starts

Bocadilla · 2020-08-30T14:00:30+00:00

I’m really not sure if IABU or not so thought I’d ask. My son was invited to a sleepover on Friday night and there were eleven other children invited. They were all going to be sleeping in sitting room on floor in sleeping bags. I know when they go back to school they will be having lots of contact with teachers/ pupils but this just seems a bit crazy to me. I wouldn’t let my son go ( he’s 12) and he’s furious with me. Is this kind of large scale/ prolonged contact a bit stupid at this stage of the game? Or is it fine? The boys usually end up wrestling and mucking around play fighting etc so wouldn’t be any kind of attempts made to minimise close contact. There is often sharing of sweets/ popcorn 🍿 IABU- it’s fine big sleepovers are ok as they will alol be mixing anyway at school IANBU - it’s selfish and not very sensible to be having parties like this just as we are easing back to school

spanieleyes · 30/08/2020 15:02

And this is why school bubbles are a complete waste of time!

Lovelivelaughcry · 30/08/2020 15:03

It's so unlikely anyone there will have covid that I would let him go. How is it different to them being crammed into a school corridor? The kids won't be socially distanced at school... if you dont have symptoms I dont see why you shouldn't live your life

MsTSwift · 30/08/2020 15:05

These large sleepers are a terrible idea for all involved Covid notwithstanding!

ThatDamnScientist · 30/08/2020 15:06

@Lovelivelaughcry

It's so unlikely anyone there will have covid that I would let him go. How is it different to them being crammed into a school corridor? The kids won't be socially distanced at school... if you dont have symptoms I dont see why you shouldn't live your life

Erm, asymptomatic spread is a thing in case you didn't realise!!

The point of social distancing is to stop this asymptomatic spread (if you have symptoms you shouldn't even be out of the bloody house!)

OP I would have made the same decision, he will get over not having a sleep over!

RedskyAtnight · 30/08/2020 15:08

How is it different to them being crammed into a school corridor?

Schools are at least attempting to keep students socially distanced in school corridors. They are also using strategies such as staggered starts/ends to lessons and keeping year groups in separate areas.

And even if they weren't, being a school corridor with someone is very different to spending several hours in the same room with them.

Keeping schools safe relies very heavily on people being sensible out of school. Large scale sleepovers are not sensible.

D4rwin · 30/08/2020 15:09

No. I've seen small scale ones but I don't allow those. This bubble at school notion isn't exactly like families bubbling together!
But who would want that many in their house overnight anyway?! I'm not running a youth hostel

latticechaos · 30/08/2020 15:09

The people who do this are massive twats, there's no getting away from it.

'how is it different from being in a school corridor'

jackstini · 30/08/2020 15:10

I'm another one that said no OP so your ds is not the only one feeling aggrieved (although dd understood, she was still upset)

It's so against the guidelines - overnights are one other household max - not 11!

It's massively different to school for 11 kids to be sharing food, play fighting and then breathing all night unmasked in the same room

latticechaos · 30/08/2020 15:11

Oh I didn't even see 'if you don't have symptoms you should live your life'

Oh jeeps, guess all that asymptomatic spread stuff is a myth then

Shockingstocking · 30/08/2020 15:11

No

walksen · 30/08/2020 15:12

The irony is that anyone is infected at school because the other parents allowed this, the kids are likely to have no symptoms and the teachers will get the blame for not being careful enough outside of school.

JayDot500 · 30/08/2020 15:13

And this is why some people fear their kids return to school. What happens outside of school is going to precede and set the stage for what happens inside

Lovelivelaughcry · 30/08/2020 15:13

Other than on mumsnet I don’t know anyone in real life that isn't living life like they always used to, seeing friends, going out to eat etc. I work in a hospital and we haven't had any inpatients with covid for a few weeks now in one of the worst hit areas just outside London. With only just over a thousand positive a day in a county of 60 odd million, I'm well and truly over this covid shit. More people died from breast cancer in the last 24 hours than from covid. Maybe we all need some perspective

nosswith · 30/08/2020 15:14

YANBU. Children of that age have a chance to pass it on to their parents and possibly grandparents.

I'd alert the school if I were you.

Original poster

Bocadilla · 30/08/2020 15:15

Thanks for replies. I just can’t work out where the parents were coming from on this. It just seems as though they couldn’t give a toss about anyone else!

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WeAllHaveWings · 30/08/2020 15:16

@Lovelivelaughcry

It's so unlikely anyone there will have covid that I would let him go. How is it different to them being crammed into a school corridor? The kids won't be socially distanced at school... if you dont have symptoms I dont see why you shouldn't live your life

This level of ignorance has no excuse when the information is/the guidelines are so easy to find.

IKEA888 · 30/08/2020 15:16

Here in Scotland we are entering eek 3 of schools being back and certainly in the s3condary schools there are no bubbles and no real measure in place apart from wiping desks 2ith an antibac wipe.
No increase in cases in school kids or teachers

Lovelivelaughcry · 30/08/2020 15:23

Don't say that ikea, that's not what people want to hear....
This country hasn't been in lockdown since VE day... and yet the numbers continue to fall despite all the normal people going about their normal daily lives and not social distancing.

greengreengrass14 · 30/08/2020 15:25

YANBU

11 in number is way too large a group, I feel.

Smaller group and easier to manage, hand sanitiser, more room, each with own disposable towels etc, I could say that was ok and indeed for the first time in ages got a smaller group coming with those sorts of arrangements, or indeed outside in a couple of tents in the garden even...

but not this number, not now and not like that

user1494055864 · 30/08/2020 15:33

@Lovelivelaughcry

Other than on mumsnet I don’t know anyone in real life that isn't living life like they always used to, seeing friends, going out to eat etc. I work in a hospital and we haven't had any inpatients with covid for a few weeks now in one of the worst hit areas just outside London. With only just over a thousand positive a day in a county of 60 odd million, I'm well and truly over this covid shit. More people died from breast cancer in the last 24 hours than from covid. Maybe we all need some perspective

Totally agree with you.

cologne4711 · 30/08/2020 15:36

How is it different to them being crammed into a school corridor

Big difference between corridor for a few minutes and being crammed together for 8 hours (ok they probably won't be asleep)

I wouldn't have let my ds go and even at his age (nearly 18!) if he suggested something like this I would strongly recommend that he didn't go.

Groups should be 6 or smaller in England. Stupid government shouldn't have said 30 for law and 6 for guidance, if it's 6 it should be 6.

Other than on mumsnet I don’t know anyone in real life that isn't living life like they always used to, seeing friends, going out to eat etc

Not where I am. Spoke to someone this morning who was moaning about a visit to her family members, who won't let them in the house so they have to sit outside in the garden this afternoon and it's turned quite cold. They are still bleaching their food etc.

cologne4711 · 30/08/2020 15:37

More people died from breast cancer in the last 24 hours than from covid. Maybe we all need some perspective

Completely agree with this though. But only deaths from covid count.