If Corona virus wasn't a thing in the last 6 months , what would your life look like?

[WomenHour]

Mine would be pretty much the same maybe gone on holiday this summer.

I should of been married and trying to start a family. We’ve put off trying for a baby for various reasons the last 6 years and now we have to wait another year again.

Much the same except my dd would have had all the last year at primary school events and I'd planned to take them on a trip to Scotland so they could experience going on a plane for the first time as they're the only two in the family who haven't been on a flight.

Work and everything else would have been the same - I've carried on working all the way through lockdown.

I would have done more shopping trips and days out. Still not doing many of those as it's a PITA with masks etc.

Fortunately I don't know anyone who caught Covid-19 so far and hoping it stays that way.

I wouldn’t be worrying about 30 kids in a classroom next week. I’d have seen my dad this summer. I’d have spent time in French markets drinking coffee, not looking at English campsites through sheets of rain.

I probably wouldn't have changed jobs. Would have been happily married by now (wedding postponed). Our house renovations would be much further ahead. We'd have more money. We'd have had two holidays (UK nowt expensive!) By now.

I'd be really excited about Ds starting school.

Other than the new job which I love, everything has gone to shit.

Pretty much the same but I think my mental health would be a lot better

I would be back in the UK and just leaving back for the States. This year I will be leaving the States instead but that's OK. Im looking forward to your wonderful weather. So,so excited

I’d have just got back from visiting family and friends in the UK. I was really sad on the day we were supposed to fly out as it popped up on my calendar.😢

I'd have gone on holidays and wouldn't have spent 4 months on furlough. DS would still be at school.

Better.

My mother in law would probably not be dead.

My husbands business would not be doing aswell

I wouldn’t of launched my business

I wouldn’t be changing my own life

I would have got the dream senior role I was in discussions regarding. Have celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary properly. Would have had a lovely holiday in Greece. Would have been able to pay the School fees without loans. I think my marriage would have been stronger too.

All in all a lot fucking better!!

Hmm. My life wouldve been a lot different.
I'd have been in work, DH wouldve been at work. This year was looking like a good year for our business. We wouldve been earning about 7.5k a month between us which wouldve been amazing.

I'd have lost quite a bit of weight. I was really overhauling my life and becoming healthier. I was getting to the gym most days, swimming for an hour +. I started training to run a 1pk run in September.

We had holidays booked for Aug, Oct, Nov, December...well. I dont think any of them will go ahead.

My mental health has instead slid backwards, This year has undone 5 years of therapy. My daughter is anxious and my husband is depressed.

We have instead of earning a huge amount a month, earnt circa £1200 this tax year so far. DH will be back in work hopefully soon, but I wont. My health is too bad now and I feel like I'm going to need to be at home to ensure everything is ok.

I have lost some weight, but only because I spent a large proportion of last years tax rebate on a gastric sleeve.

The tax rebate was for a large amount...really the biggest amount of money I've ever had at once. It was in the region of a house deposit and was due to be used as such . I was SO excited to be near to getting on the housing ladder. But that's all in smoke and I cant see us being in a position where it's possible for a good few years now. Weve been living off that money since May.
DHs day rate has also just been slashed by £60 a day for when he returns to work.

So COVID has royally screwed us and we havent even had it.

Phew thanks for the opportunity to rant about this shit pandemic. I'm trying to just get on with everything but fucking hell, it's taken every bit of hope I had for my future away.

I’d have been living a much more independent life. Working in an office with colleagues I like.

We were just about to be comfortable financially for the first time since the children were born and now we're literally scraping to keep our heads above water and that's whilst I'm furloughed. God only knows how we'll survive if I don't get to keep my job come October 😭😭

I'd have hopefully been pregnant but my Ivf cycle was cancelled due to lockdown.

We'd be getting ready to go on our third holiday of the year, having had a lovely summer with lots of parties and events. We would have been able to give my grandmother the funeral she wanted plus I would have been able to grieve with my mum. The whole mask thing and my attempts to desensentise from them wiped out 2 years of therapy and killed any stupid ideas I had about ever having a proper job so I'd still have plans to study for a social work postgrad once dd was older/I finished the psychology degree I'm doing for "fun" and my mental health would be way better.

I would have lost more weight and started dating (I've met someone). I would have had more free time because I wouldn't have been doing as much childcare and I would have had more trips out and a couple of holidays.

I would also have had bit of cosmetic work done.

My DD would probably have passed her driving and secured full time work using her qualifications.

My friend's little boys therapies/Nursery wouldn't have stopped and he wouldn't have regressed. He may never catch up.

I'd have been going to the gym several times a week and attending regular physio appointments, instead of feeling like I'd run a marathon from travelling from the sofa to the bathroom and back. When I was most ill, I practically needed a rest from the sheer effort of wiping my own arse before getting back up again.

As a result of that, my joints would have been in better shape and I'd have been stronger and less susceptible to injury. And my ongoing weightloss would have continued, instead of putting weight on at 1600 kcals a day. Even without the gym, as I went out every single day, whether or work or just to be active, I'd have still lost weight.

A mate would still be alive.

I would have seen people I knew and maintained social links through activities.

We'd have been travelling and working at festivals, playing gigs and generally having a great time through the summer.

We'd have seen his family for the first time in a year.

On the positive side though, DP wouldn't have got a promotion and a massive increase in hours, as the backlog means he is cleaning up in terms of overtime. And I might not have had my contract automatically extended for another year.

Still would prefer it not to have happened.

Very different.
My ex DH to be would have moved out
I would have started divorce proceedings and been able to move on
I may have handed in my notice and work and moved.

All was planned/considered but COVID-19 screwed it all up as he lost his job and hasn't gone.

I don’t think I’d have fallen into this depression I seem to be in. All alone, except for my young dc half the week, for 5 months.

I’d be planning my suicide if it weren’t for the dc. Though tbh I’ve felt like this quite often since xh left 3 years ago.

I depend heavily on being around other adults for my sanity.

It’s funny how many people’s reaction to you saying you’re suicidal is to carry in like you didn’t say it. I had a similar experience when ds1 was little and I told people I wasn’t coping. I really really wasn’t. But again, as if I hadn’t said it.

I'd be married! And I wouldn't have been unemployed for months when I left one job (as per my pre-Covid resignation), was unable to start the new job (no work!), and was not eligible for furlough from either. But it is what it is.

I'd finally be working in a decent job after being unemployed for years and skint as a single parent. I would have spare money and wouldn't be constantly worrying about how I'm going to afford stuff.

My daughter would be dancing competitively after working really hard for the last couple of years. She finally made the competitive team just before lockdown and didn't get to do her first competition. This doesn't sound a big deal but it meant so much to us both .

I didn't read the thread before posting so apologise as reading the other posts mine pales in comparison.

I would have been to see my new nephew. He's nearly 5 months old now. Can't get that time back.

My husband would have had his treatment and would be recuperating. Possibly we would have done the same holidays. As it is we're hoping his treatment will be done by December. 🙏🏻🤞🏻