I’ve been with my parter/boyfriend for around 4 and a half years. For the past 6 months it’s been a LDR as he moved 500 miles away for work.
Two weeks ago was the first time he came back to visit me due to lockdown etc. He wanted to visit some mutual friends who we know from walking our dogs and who have helped sort issues with his property whilst he has been gone. No problem, we planned to go for a coffee for an hour or so. We left 8 hours later with him completely hammered and me demented. Friend is an alcoholic and can drink very, very heavily (think home brewed vodka). They are very nice people but I don’t really drink, especially not to the extent they do, so it was pretty miserable for me. We spoke about it afterwards and I made it clear that I wasn’t happy and as much as I like them, I didn’t want to be in that position again.
Fast forward to today, DP is back home again. We only have today and tomorrow together really and then it will be 3 weeks before we see each other. He told friends yesterday that we would go over for a bbq today. My allergies been awful the past few days, think streaming eyes and nose, constant sneezing, can’t breathe properly etc so regardless, I wasn’t up for it. I said that was fine, he could go round on his own. Somehow managed to let myself be talked into going round for an hour on the way back from walking the dogs. Turned into five hours of torture where I probably looked like a miserable bitch (because I am!) and they got hammered again. I mentioned about a hundred times about leaving and eventually just got up and put my jacket on and DP followed. He was so drunk he had been trying to give my dog cooked chicken bones and I had to keep removing stolen food from the three dogs in the garden as they were just leaving it at their arses. Came home, DP pawed at me wanting sex, then threw up and is in a drunken stupor next door whilst I’m in the spare room.
We are staying at his flat, I have my own place 20 miles away. Our relationship is far from perfect as it and right now I just want to pack up and drive home. AIBU?