Where should a fence post go?

[Saltylake]

The boundary fence between my neighbours and I is falling apart.
My neighbour knocked to tell me they were replacing the fence but the end post would have to go in my garden as they couldn’t fit it in theirs. The reason why they don’t want it in their own garden is because the previous owners built decking which is bordered with sleepers to within a cm of the border (which is clearly defined by our houses. The old fence wasn’t finished with post, it was nailed to the end with a thin piece of wood. Having the post in my garden would involve digging up part of my patio (which has been there for more than the 10 years I’ve lived here!), it also means I would lose part of my border as the fence would then encroach onto my side.

My neighbours moved in at the start of the year and I don’t want to cause tension but AIBU to think they were being cheeky asking to have the fence post in my garden as it will be less hassle for them?

Tell them to do one

There is no legal obligation for a fence post to go anywhere.

If you agree to it, make sure they pay for any work.

It seems easier to cut a bit off a (presumably wooden) sleeper than to dig up a patio.

Why cant it be attached to the decking as before? Or cut into the decking. No way would I be digging up my patio.

If the last post is on your side surely they will be the whole length if its straight.

If they’re paying for all the work? Including making good your patio. I’d reluctantly agree.
Having been through a dispute with a neighbour, it’s not worth it imo. How tall is the fence? How much land will you lose? Once that fence has been thee for 11 years (I think) they’ll own that land. You won’t know what it looks like until it’s finished....
why can’t a hole be cut out of the decking so they can have the post?

The gardens are really small and having both my own and their post on my side will make the garden feel even more hemmed in. The fence will then not sit in the straight line it should it will go in an angle towards my house.

If it’s their fence, it goes in their garden, not yours.

Hmmm I’ve changed my mind, if it’s a small garden already.... they’ll need to put the post in their garden. Mention your patio area and the money that’ll cost and it’ll be a mess etc
Do you think it’s a sneaky way to acquire a little more land...

I forgot they’ll need to cement the post in? They’ll need to remove, do post, put back. They’re just trying to save time and money

Is it their fence? If it cNt go in the same position then it goes towards them, not you. They'll just have to saw a bit of their decking off 🤷‍♀️

They’re not bothered about causing tension though are they.

So they don’t want to do anything to their decking but they think it’s entirely fair that your patio gets dug up. Right.

‘No’ is the word you need. And no they don’t have to put the post in your garden.