I have a 5yr old ds who will be going in to yr 1 next week. We live in a small village with all children attending the local village school .There is one boy in my ds year who is very very badly behaved and disruptive in school - kicking, hitting plus, throwing food a lunchtime one quite violet incident by him towards another child back in January.
The only child this boy likes is my ds, and my ds likes playing with him. Back in January, in order to try and help him settle his parents tried to encourage a friendship with our DS, which became quite suffocating, with them waiting for us a school gate at drop off and pick up, joining the same football club, telling everyone that the boys were best friends etc. We know this boys parents and find the mum very judgemental especially about how other children are raised and a total snob (she is very selective on who her kids play with and we certainly didn't fit the bill until they stated having issues). If the shoe was on the other foot and my ds was disruptive she would cross the street to avoid us, so we feel a bit used! Anyway, she has invited us to a playdate on Wednesday with 2 other children from school and I know my ds would love to go. I can't face the thought of an afternoon with this woman, plus I'm not keen to promote a friendship with this boy, but aibu making my ds miss out? I know that if I liked the parents I'd be more supportive, so my view is definitely clouded by this, but I'm not keen on him being around the boy or the parents.