to be horrified at what this girl was wearing?

[iloveknitting]

walking through our local shopping mall the otherday i saw a 9/10yr old girl wearing a fairly normal outfit, frilly mini skirt, leggings etc BUT she was wearing 3in heel shiny black leather stiletto boots COVERED in shiny chains, buckles and studs and as i got closer i could see that she had make-up plastered all over her face, bright green eyeshadow, eyeliner, mascara, loads of blusher and bright red lipstick, a 10yr old ffs!!!

this poor child totaly looked like hooker, and she was walking with her mum looking proud as punch at how grown up she looked. what kind of mother would allow her child to strut around a busy town centre looking like that, a walking advert to pervs and sickos??

AIBU to be totally sickened by this over sexualisation of this child?

[MaryAnnSingletomb]

but see it a lot

[Yorkshirepudding]

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[iloveknitting]

i wonder who makes this stuff and where the parents buy it from.

[ScaremyVile]

I hate seeing that too but 'pervs and sickos' need no mitigation - I dont likr the implication that a childs outfit can be to blame for someone elses thoughts or actions.

A paedophile needs no excuse - their interest would be in the child regardless of the outfit.

[BrownSuga]

was that my dh's dd? her DM lets her wear leggings, crop tops and boots with heels. she's 8.

[mrspnut]

I don't like seeing it - and I often have to spit on a tissue and scrub my 10 year olds face. However I don't think that it provides any kind of invitation to anybody.

No paedophile is going to target a child purely because they're wearing tarty clothing, it's far more complicated than that. It's almost like saying that by wearing tarty clothing to go out in the evening a woman is inviting the attention of rapists and murderers.

[Blu]

Agree with jeremyVile.

I hate it.

I think the effect on the girls' self image is more harmful...learning to see herself as someone who shows off her body etc rather than dressing for comfort and play.

[Yorkshirepudding]

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[Desiderata]

I agree with JV on the paedophile aspect. Thankfully I'm no expert, but I would imagine that it is generally the innocence of a child that appeals .. a little girl in a frilly dress is no less a target, I'm afraid.

It isn't nice to see little girls dressed up like that, but it's the world we live in I'm afraid.

[hippipotami]

Oh that makes me sooo mad! At dd's school there is one little girl (now in Y1 so she must be 5?) who wears clumpy black school shoes with a 2" heel. I mean wtf?? As a mum, why would you do that?

I agree with JV about the fact that sickos would be attracted to the 'innocence' of a child, but at the same time they are quick to say 'she was asking for it', and I think an outfit as described by the OP could be seen by some mis-wired men as 'asking for it'

[binkleandflip]

A little girl at my dd's school xmas party aged around 7 wearing gold hotpants, tights and heels and a halter neck top.

sad and wrong

[hippipotami]

I agree Binkle. At age 7 surely it should be a pretty dress/skirt and perhaps a girly necklace and some sparkly hairclips? And a little bit of sparkly clear lipgloss if you really wanted to push the boat out?

They are only 7, so so small, there is no need for them to look like teenagers already. It makes me

[NAB3]

At our school you aren't allowed shoes with heels.

I find it frustraiting getting my children clothes at times as they wear clothes older than theur age, due to being tall, and it is hard to get age appropriate things at times. I go to different shops or they go without.

[alittlebitshy]

It is sometimes hard to find age appropriate clothes, cos it always seems that the shops are making smaller versions of adults clothes which annoys the hell out of me. But as NAB3 says, you just look elsewhere (and grab when you see something suitable!) or wait......
at idiots mothers who think it looks ok to dress little girls as slappers!!!!!

[hippipotami]

NAB3 - our school does not allow shoes with heels either, but there are a handful of mums who just love disobeying the rules. (this particular little girl wears her earrings to school too - this is also not allowed)
And she has a ds in my ds's year, who has had his hair dyed - it is highlighted and looks [hmmm]

[hippipotami]

That should say she has a brother in my ds's year. A girl of 5 with earrings and high heel shoes has not yet had a ds. Grr, typing all over hte place today.

[MaryAnnSingletomb]

I always cringe at mufti day at the unsuitable clothes the girls come in

[hippipotami]

I am lucky in that so far dd favours comfort over anything. She is also a huge fan of skirts and dresses, preferably long and billowy. So she wears long skirts with funky tights and winterboots. She once went to a party wearing a pink fairy dress, stripy tights and a pair of her brothers old brown converse high-tops. She looked decidedly odd, but so cute.

I will NOT be buying her any clothes that make her look older than her tender 4 years of age. I have even bought her jeans in the boys' section of Next this autumn because I did not want anything that was designed to cling to hips (dd is 4, she has no hips, what are these designers thinking?), and I detest sequins of any shape and form. So she got a pair of well-fitting boys jeans. And she loves them! (and teamed with a pink t-shirt and her brown winterboots with flowers on she will look lovely and age-appropriate)

[mrspnut]

I had a huge row with my 10 year old in Primark yesterday because I wouldn't let her buy a little denim mini skirt.

Apparantly I know nothing about fashion and she not so graciously agreed to get skinny jeans, a t shirt and a belt because otherwise I was heading back to the car and going home and she'd get nothing.

[helenhismadwife]

Far to young and quite nasty to look at IMO.

A lot of girls go through a stage of dressing a bit tarty, I cringe at the very short skirts and tight tops I used to wear (wish I still had the figure thou) but not at such a young age its very sad they should be enjoying other things, I dont remember being at all interested in clothes at 10

[mummyloveslucy]

I believe that children must be alowed to be children. I think that the innocence of childhood is being lost and if that is a sign of the times then what is happening to this country ? What are these parents thinking???
She is not only dammaging her childs feet but also her childhood. I personally think that bratz dolls have a lot to answer for and also the clothing companies that make these provocative clothes for innocent children

[PSCMUM]

no YANBU at all.

What is really hilarious (well in a sick and sad kind of way) is that it is so often parents who dress their children up as paedophile fodder, who then shout the loudest on those disgusting ignorant self-righteous anti-paedophile marches outside paediatricians houses.

[Blandmum]

I saw the same thing last Friday. A child of around 9-10. Masses of jewelry, including two massive hooped earings in each ear. Dress by 'working girls are us' Hair by amy winehouse. make up. attitude

sad, sad, sad.