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Dump the stuff?

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iamtheoneandonlyyy · 27/08/2020 23:11

If someone has a particularly unpleasant break up but is left with many of their former partners belongings, is it unreasonable to go and dump them in the ex's driveway?
He would have been asked to collect several times but never bothered.
The ex would be living with their mum but she would be away for a bit so perhaps wouldn't even know.

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Baileyscheesecake · 28/08/2020 13:53

There are legal terms for items left behind by a lodger. m.spareroom.co.uk/content/info-landlords/what-to-do-if-your-lodger-leaves-possessions-behind Apparently you have to give them notice and a reasonable time period to collect (14 days is considered sufficient). As pp said send by signed for delivery so you have proof. If it’s not a lodger apparently in America after 60 days it’s considered abandoned property and can be disposed of as long as they haven’t contacted you and given a reason why they can’t collect. lifehacker.com/what-to-do-with-stuff-someone-left-at-your-place-1826115025. I would have thought U.K. llaw would be similar.

iamtheoneandonlyyy · 28/08/2020 13:53

Three months.
The first lot he demanded I prepare and put in my garden to be collected. My family and I did it. I thought it was every last thing, double bed, tv's, the works.
He never turned up. Most of it was his sons. He left it and it got rained on. I rescued what I could of my stepsons.
Eventually I got hold of his mum. He was at the pub, lying that he was coming. She took some.
He said he didn't want the rest and told me to take it to the tip.
I had to arrange a van for that. At my expense.
Anyway.
I went in my Xmas cupboard to get sorted and suddenly saw some more old clothes etc. Told him. He has been saying he will get it for almost three months now.
There's a huge huge backstory but I hate a drip feed so I won't do it. That's the tale of his 'stuff' though

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SpongebobNoPants · 28/08/2020 13:54

@Baileyscheesecake thanks Grin I knew I was right!

willloman · 28/08/2020 13:56

Send him an invoice for storage.

britnay · 28/08/2020 16:02

I think it would be classed as flytipping if you dumped it unfortunately.

iamtheoneandonlyyy · 28/08/2020 20:53

Seems he's gone away for the weekend with his new girlfriend and taken the kids money to spend. After telling me all day he would transfer it over.
Ok so I'm guessing it's illegal or frowned upon to go and take a huge shit on his drive 🤔
I'm just joking.

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BoomBoomsCousin · 29/08/2020 05:10

Given the history, I would just throw it out. If he ever actually comes asking for it, just tell him picked it up ages ago.

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