To be really struggling with DS1 starting school?

[howlathebees]

I’m posting here because I don’t know where else to post. My DS1 is starting school and turning 5 next month and I’m getting so emotional about it. I can’t really put into words but it almost feels like he’s slipping away from me, 5 just seems so grown up. It’s lovely in some ways because we can have proper conversations now and he’s becoming a real person, but I just wish everything could slow down and he could be a tiny baby again. It’s really been getting to me the past few weeks, I can’t think of anything else. I just feel like I’ve lost him a bit, he was only 2 had DS2 and now DS4’s on the way and I feel like I’ve just missed out on so much with him and now it’s going to get worse. I don’t really know why I’m posting this, I’m just hoping others have felt the same way and some of you can tell me that 5 year old are still your babies and don’t go off to school and suddenly become fully grown adults. Have any of you felt this way and can you offer me some advice? Or just tell me to get my shit together and grow up

My son is about to go into Year 1 next week but currently curled up on my lap under a duvet having a pj day! Still very much the baby in many ways.

My 20 year old is still my baby

My 4 year old who I cried over is now going into year 2. She is still a baby! Certainly to me.

Your post made me think.

When I went to school for the first time my mother cried.

When I went away to college for the first time, she cried hysterically. Not just when I went to college for the first time. When I came home to visit, about once every month, she cried hysterically every time that I went back on the bus. This was over four years.

When I was 25 and I met a man from Canada, and we decided to move to Canada for a year. My mother cried for weeks on end.

I am writing this to point out that each of these experiences were ruined by my mother. I was excited about college, until my mother made it all about her, and dragged me down with her crying.

I wws excited about going to canada, until my mother ruined that for me, and brought me down with her terrible crying for weeks.

I was never allowed to enjoy these experiences.

The point is, you don't own your child. They are an independent human being.

Think of your child, not of yourself and how you are thinking. He will be excited to go to school and meet new friends

@Sarahpaula

Your post made me think.

When I went to school for the first time my mother cried.

When I went away to college for the first time, she cried hysterically. Not just when I went to college for the first time. When I came home to visit, about once every month, she cried hysterically every time that I went back on the bus. This was over four years.

When I was 25 and I met a man from Canada, and we decided to move to Canada for a year. My mother cried for weeks on end.

I am writing this to point out that each of these experiences were ruined by my mother. I was excited about college, until my mother made it all about her, and dragged me down with her crying.

I wws excited about going to canada, until my mother ruined that for me, and brought me down with her terrible crying for weeks.

I was never allowed to enjoy these experiences.

The point is, you don't own your child. They are an independent human being.

Think of your child, not of yourself and how you are thinking. He will be excited to go to school and meet new friends

Of course I know I don’t own him. And I’ve said I won’t cry in front of him and I won’t show him I feel this way. He has no clue I feel like this, we’ve made school exciting for him. But when DH and I are alone I will have a little cry. I’m sorry for what your mother did, my mum was the same as well, and I’d never do that for him.

It’s lovely to hear of how others little ones have still stayed little