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To not attend the class

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zoggle · 27/08/2020 21:28

I have a 5 month old baby and I'm desperate to get out to some classes.

Next month our local sensory class starts back with in person classes and I've booked us on and paid for the class for a 5 week block

The class is suitable for ages 0-13months.

I had a confirmation email and a copy of their Covid policy for the class.

It states that as I'm attending a mobile baby class I'm required to wear my mask for the duration of the class.

I contacted the course provider and she said that the class is suitable for 0-13months she has split the classes into mobile and non mobile babies and this is for the purpose of social distancing.

Everyone will be 2m apart but at a mobile baby class masks must be worn as it's possible 2m rule will be broken by a mobile baby moving around and a parent retrieving said child.

I didn't notice this when I booked the class and now the spaces for the non mobile baby class is full.

I'm considering cancelling. I'm already quite nervous about going and I think having babies and parents come close to me will make me not enjoy the class.

Is it unreasonable if I cancel? I've already been told a refund will not be issued. 😔

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zoggle · 28/08/2020 02:57

@Babyboomtastic

It might be a bit weird having a non mobile baby at the mobile class personally. I mean, they'll be crawling, and toddling, some will literally be running around, whilst your babycmay still need help sitting up (that's no criticism, it's just the difference in age is huge at this stage?). You may get some babies of a similar age (my first was mobile at 6m), but most in the group will be 8m+. If you are ok with this, then fab, but obviously it may mean your baby is too young to join in some activities.
@Babyboomtastic

No this isn't going to be an issue. The lady who runs the course said the class is suitable for all ages. It's just been divided like this for the sake of social distancing.

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zoggle · 28/08/2020 02:59

@Potterpotterpotter

Why book on a class that you know other people will attend if your nervous of other people being in the room Hmm
@Potterpotterpotter

Because I have to try and get back to some normality!! Yes I'm nervous but if I avoid all things I'm nervous of with this pandemic then I'm going to be stuck in for a while!!!

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EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 28/08/2020 03:49

it sounds like they are taking reasonable precautions - if not refundable you may as well try the first one.
you need to get out for your mental wellbeing.

Pegase · 28/08/2020 03:59

Really babies do not need socialisation with other babies for such a long time. Even young toddlers play next to each other not with each other. The point of these classes is for parents to not feel so isolated so if you don't want to go then don't bother. I think I probably wouldn't not because of the safety but because I wouldn't consider it worth the discomfort of sitting with my mask on- still not used to it!!

seayork2020 · 28/08/2020 04:17

I went to baby groups for me not for my son (well before Covid) - so if you don't want to go don't but they have every right to keep the money

Rememberallball · 28/08/2020 04:39

I would go to one session and see how it works for you then decide if you’re going to continue with the group or not.

My twins have just turned a year and the one group that we went to pre-Covid is restarting in the next few weeks however we won’t be able to go back as I can’t wrangle 2 mobile crawlers and manage the social distancing that the class leader has put in place for the benefit of all those attending. Also, in the past, the class leader would take one or other twin when it came to the baby massage part of the class so they both get 1-2-1 attention and the ‘full experience’ of the group. Because of the changes to how the group will be run, she can’t do this now, so it means neither twin could get fully involved.

And, if I’m honest, I’m glad to have an excuse not to go back as I found it excruciatingly cringeworthy being expected to put silly accessories on my children (and myself) that they had no understanding of just so I could tick a box of them socialising with other children; there’s plenty of time for that when they reach school age.

Potterpotterpotter · 28/08/2020 05:42

@zoggle

Because I have to try and get back to some normality!! Yes I'm nervous but if I avoid all things I'm nervous of with this pandemic then I'm going to be stuck in for a while!!!

Then why are you banging on about cancelling and a refund. Suck it up and go or don’t and stay indoors.
Don’t book something and then moan about attending.

Nicolastuffedone · 28/08/2020 05:49

You seem to be answering your own questions OP......

DancingCatGif · 28/08/2020 05:54

"Then why are you banging on about cancelling and a refund. Suck it up and go or don’t and stay indoors.
Don’t book something and then moan about attending."

Did you have a baby during a pandemic?

If not, I honestly don't think you can understand what it's been like for those of us that did

Teaorcake · 28/08/2020 06:08

It doesn't sound like people will be sat closer together, just that say baby rolls or something obviously parents will move slightly from their designated space to pick them up, meaning that there might be times people are closer together for a few seconds than in the non mobile baby group where none of them can move.

seayork2020 · 28/08/2020 06:27

@DancingCatGif

"Then why are you banging on about cancelling and a refund. Suck it up and go or don’t and stay indoors. Don’t book something and then moan about attending."

Did you have a baby during a pandemic?

If not, I honestly don't think you can understand what it's been like for those of us that did

But is it a surprise that there will be other parents and babies at a parenting class? sure the op can go or not but then not sure why talk of a refund is mentioned? it is not as if the virus has just happened

why was it booked?

CatteStreet · 28/08/2020 06:32

@DancingCatGif

"Your baby needs the socialization, you do too."

A five month old baby doesn't need socialising. They barely understand the concept that they are separate entities.

This.

It's fine to want to go out to a class for you.

But in order to do that you are going to have to accept the (small and substantially mitigated) risk that goes along with it, and a period of time in a mask.

Lochroy · 28/08/2020 06:40

I'm sorry you're feeling nervous but I can't work out what's changed now she's split the class compared to what you were expecting when you booked it?

Tomatoesneedtoripen · 28/08/2020 06:44

i agree,
it is socialization for you
if you dont want to this week, perhaps rebook for next week?

Potterpotterpotter · 28/08/2020 06:48

*Did you have a baby during a pandemic?

If not, I honestly don't think you can understand what it's been like for those of us that did*

I have a two month old actually. I still don’t go around booking things and then moaning about it and asking for a refund.

Bringonspring · 28/08/2020 06:48

You anxiety sounds quite high. I think it will do you the world of good to go!

latticechaos · 28/08/2020 06:52

@ElainaElephant

Masks are better at avoiding transmission than distancing is, quite significantly.

Personally I would rather be in the mobile class with masks than the non mobile workout, because even if someone is half a metre away, if they are wearing a mask the risk of transmission is less than 2m away without one.

This is not correct.

Distancing is the best way to avoid covid.

Masks are used if you can't distance, but distance is preferable.

Footlooseandfancy · 28/08/2020 06:53

It wouldn't be a problem for me. I presume that most parents will be fairly hot on keeping their baby in their zone. I've seen the photos of our local class online and it looks like everyone is further apart than in the queue for Costa or in a supermarket aisle.

Don't forget that by the end of the term you could easily have a "non mobile baby" - my DD was doing multiple rolls at 5 months to go and look at other babies and was fully crawling by the end of our term in the 0-6 month class as it's based on age when you start.

latticechaos · 28/08/2020 06:55

Disappointing to read the nasty unsupportive responses on here. Some people need empathy classes FFS.

Potterpotterpotter · 28/08/2020 07:01

While some people just need to get on with life and stop moaning about everything

Ullupullu · 28/08/2020 07:05

At 5 months this class is really for you to meet other parents. Your baby will be unfussed. You'll realise this when your child is older and needs playgroups! Do more for you - can you arrange a safe outside coffee meet up via a local parenting Facebook group to meet other mums with similar aged babies?

DancingCatGif · 28/08/2020 07:21

@Potterpotterpotter

Fuck me, what is your problem? A relatively new mum who had a baby during a pandemic is moaning???

I suppose you just strapped the baby onto your back and went back to work in the fields, did you?

eggofmantumbi · 28/08/2020 07:51

Would she let you sell the sessions to someone else? Sounds like there's demand?
Maybe you'd be better off doing something outdoors like buggy fit to begin with?

YoureAllABunchOfBastards · 28/08/2020 07:54

This has reminded me of the baby music class I went to with DS1. At the end of the session the leader would put the bubble machine on and one kid - probably about a year old - would invariably strip off and run around naked, because bubbles = naked.

I do hope they grew out of it.

RedskyAtnight · 28/08/2020 08:04

Is it worth asking whether there is anyone in the non-mobile class that would like to swap with you? Sounds like you'd be happier in that class and then you'd get a chance to see for yourself what the class/distancing etc was like.

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