I've been friends with this woman for about 10 years and we've been very close through all of this time.
We have/had the sort of relationship where we help each other out and support each other. Admittedly its normally me helping more than her but it's never bothered me.
There have definitely been times where my friend can come across as a bit self centred but on the whole I'm able to see past these things because she can also be an amazing friend.
Last week my dd (10) had an accident on her skates and broke her wrist and sprained her ankle. Disaster!
We were all on a day out together, so dd and I plus friend and her 3 kids.
After dd hurt herself friend was very dismissive about it and insisted on continuing the day out and kept cajoling dd to toughen up and not ruin the day, plus telling me to not pay any attention. I assume she thought that dd was making a fuss and hadn't hurt herself badly.
I decided to leave because dd wrist and ankle clearly needed to be looked at because she was in a lot of pain. Friend was a bit snappy and obviously not happy but it was an accident!
Fast forward nearly a week and so called friend hasn't been anywhere to be seen. This is a woman that messages on a daily basis, pops in for a cuppa regularly.
Friend has always made a big show out of how close we are and how much she cares about me and dd.
If things were reversed I'd have gone round and taken treats for the kids and tried to give friend a bit of a break. I'd also be asking if I can help in any way.
I don't drive due to medical reasons so she also knows that dd and I are literally stuck inside until dd gets a bit of mobility but there has been nothing!
I do wonder if part of it is that she feels guilty now that dd is in a cast and she was so dismissive of it but I don't know.
A part of me feels upset and another part of me feels like she's showing her true colours.
Aibu to feel a bit upset?