that their DH is actually really lazy, and you hadn't noticed before as you were too busy and didn't notice!
I work full time, office hours, high pressured role, but very much desk based. Was fortunate that i wasn't furloughed from work when most of my team was, and subsequently kept my job during a redundancy process. However does mean my workload is full on all day!
We have 1 dc4 who was at home for 2 months during the peak of lockdown as nursery was closed.
Dh also remained working he works in a maintenance role so works shifts, however generally works 4 shifts in a row then has 4 days off. Shifts vary from earlies, lates, nights.
During lockdown, majority of childcare fell to me which you would expect as I was at home. However even if dh was off or on a late shift, I would still be expected to get dc up, dressed, sort breakfast out while also trying to work and have calls. I would also have to do dishwasher, washing, general tidying up etc. Dh cooks dinner if he is on an early shift.
Now lockdown is easing, dc is back at nursery so I am doing majority of drop offs, dh picks up when on an early, otherwise I do all. I generally work from 830, log off between 430 - 5, but if I am a second past 430 I have dh moaning at me.
Today I had a really important call at 1630, so I logged on slightly later at 845 (went for a run this morning instead of this evening) dh has been huffing and puffing around the house as I said i was going to be late. He has been home since 1530 and sat on the sofa and done nothing apart from pick dc up I have finished work at 5, cooked dinner, sorted 2 loads of washing, emptied the bins.
I really enjoy my job and on a couple of occasions will log on in the evening if I need to. Dh sits and plays games on his phone all evening, so I'm keeping myself entertained. But if I so much as mention that I want to do that, I get the rolling eyes and moaning. I would understand if we were going out or doing something but we're not!