To be at the end of my tether with my 16 yo

[StormzyInaDCup]

AIBU to pack their bags and call their bluff? Apparently they are moving out because I'm just so awful.

Every single day there's attitude over something. I can not tell them anything at all, without stomping, shouting, screaming.

I am a single parent with a chronic illness that's impacted by stress. Regardless, I push myself hard to keep a normal life going. We have a clean house, nice car, good friends. We do a lot together, I am very generous with them. Maybe over generous.

Their dad is not in the picture, he left to go abroad years ago. So it's just me. It is getting to the point where I don't even want to be in my own home anymore because of it...

I get how you feel this way I really do and it honestly depends on so many factors that only you can make that decision.
Would your mental health improve worrying about where they were,what they were up to,were they safe etc?
Perhaps withdrawing lifts,pocket money,gifts,doing the washing and cooking for them until the attitude is better would be the first steps to take?
I ,personally,could not do it but I know someone who did and the 16 year old really went off the rails then.
Just like all the other stages of growing up,this will pass,and hopefully you will look back on this time together and your dc will apologise.
I feel for you,it's an awful time,but it will get better,hold into that.

Has something made them so angry at YOU all the time? Yes you say you cant do anything right and you are "over generous" but this must have started from something! Pack their bags see what happens!?! Clearly you don't need the stress. Talk to them???

Family meeting? Less nice things for them and more stress relieving things for you?
Are the contributing to the house with a reasonable level of grace - chores, helping you etc (not money unless they have left school)? If not they should be and the nice things would be going away until this started