Can’t decide if AIBU or what to do about the situation (maybe nothing).
I am a team leader of a team of around 10. In the last couple of months two of the women have announced they are pregnant. I am genuinely pleased for them and we are a very supportive business and team for pregnancy and leave (maternity and shared parental leave). I have been nothing but supportive of them both as a manager. In the background I have had three miscarriages in the last 18 months and have been on the exhausting IVF train. Nobody within this team knows (some at work do but my peers only) and I have no wish for them to know, I will definitely not be sharing with them.
The issue: we have a team WhatsApp group.
For work purposes (so I can’t not be it) but also there has always been a bit of chit chat. Not everyday, but wishing happy birthday, update on traffic, news from work etc. In the last few weeks it has become that they talk about their pregnancies endlessly on the group. Scan pictures, guessing if it’s boys or girls, how sick they are, what they are drinking or eating, what they are dreaming. Every. Single. Day.
I think I would think this was inappropriate even if I wasn’t on my journey, but I can’t be sure. I am finding it very difficult to deal with everyday. The only person who could speak to them about it is me, but I don’t want to do that if I’m reality I am being unreasonable. As I say, there has always been other chat on there to a degree, and I have no reason to believe anyone else has fertility issues in the team (they may of course, but I don’t think so). I definitely don’t want to give them the impression I (or the business) are not happy for them, and they clearly do not have the insight to understand the impact they may be having.