To feel strongly about this kind of thing on Instagram?

[Rosegoldlilly1]

My DSis has made a Instagram account in the name of her DS who is just under 1. All pics are of him and the account is public. She has total random people commenting on the pictures. There are a couple of pics of my DS on there too which I'm not happy about. She didn't ask me and I've only just noticed she's posted them.
Anyway my DSis isn't the only person to do this for their children. AIBU to think this is so wrong? 1. Your child cannot consent to this and what about when they are older?

1. So many sick people out there, you don't know who could screen shot. 3. People could use the pictures and steal your child's identity. Rare but I've seen it happen.

My account is private, I very rarely post pics of my DS. I've deleted alot of people on my page and only have people I know well on there.
AIBU to think you shouldn't do this?

YABU. But she certainly shouldn't be putting pictures of your DS on her social media without checking with you first.

YANBU at all.

yANBU.
I really don’t get why parents want to splash their kids all over Instagram everyday. Some accounts have mums of multiple kids and they are posting 2-3 time’s every day with all sorts of pics of their young kids. Not just the kids from a distance doing something but up close of their faces or in their pj’s or some new outfit. Many many likes and comments from thousands of people.
Honestly don’t get it- all I can think is the parent needs some heavy duty validation from strangers or they are extremely insecure in their own lives and by posting pics of the perfect family they get some sort of false sense of importance / adoration / affirmation. I just don’t get how they don’t realise it’s all so meaningless and fake?

YANBU. A friend of mine adds photos of her children to her public Instagram account with the full names as hashtag, including middle name.

Wrong on several levels. There are stories where these pictures have ended up in the wrong hands and edited. Also think about the generation of children when they are old enough to realise they have been exposed in this way. I don’t understand the reasons unless it’s to try and make money

Yanbu

There was a case in France where a teen had to take her parents to court to force them to remove pics of her on their SM. I think that there will be more of this in the future.

Imagine applying for a job and people finding pics of you as a child on the potty or in the bath?

I feel worse for the children whose parents basically sell on YouTube. Their classmates and future partners will see everything and they are pressured to perform so the family gets free holidays etc

@Time2change2

yANBU. I really don’t get why parents want to splash their kids all over Instagram everyday. Some accounts have mums of multiple kids and they are posting 2-3 time’s every day with all sorts of pics of their young kids. Not just the kids from a distance doing something but up close of their faces or in their pj’s or some new outfit. Many many likes and comments from thousands of people. Honestly don’t get it- all I can think is the parent needs some heavy duty validation from strangers or they are extremely insecure in their own lives and by posting pics of the perfect family they get some sort of false sense of importance / adoration / affirmation. I just don’t get how they don’t realise it’s all so meaningless and fake?

Completely agree with this.

Not unreasonable. So unwise.

I think her aim is to try make money from the account. Which again I strongly don't agree with making money or receiving free gifts from putting your child out there.
Such a safeguarding issue in my opinion.
I did follow a certain influencer on insta and she has millions of followers. She plasters her son on there and people make dedicated fan pages to the little boy who is barely 1. Writes on the pictures how they love him so much etc. And to me that is scary and unsettling that complete strangers would be besotted by a child that isn't yours.

I think it's weird. We don't have any photos of our baby on social media. I just don't even understand why we would want to.

I'm sure in 20 years, there are going to be so many parents being sued for having a million photos of their kids all over sm.

I hope this idiotic trend changes.

It’s a tough one OP - fwiw I completely agree with you that putting Children on social media is wrong and we choose not to do it at all with dd.
YABU to judge her for her choice though - she can choose for herself and her children but YANBU regarding your own child and id be asking for images of my child not to be shared and those already there to be deleted

I agree with u. I don’t understand it either. But. I’m from a child care background and have done many safety courses and hear all the stories from professionals that other people may not.

I think that asides from asking her not to put photos that contain images of your children on Instagram, you should mind your own business.

I also find it concerning.

I find it also signals that the parent very well may not be able to put the child's interests above their own more generally. The child is not a person in their own right, but an appendage for the parent(s) to feel good.

I see it like entering your kid to beauty contests..but far more extreme and damaging to the kid, because there's no time when they're not "on stage".

Its exploitation, pure and simple. It's so strange that no shame is placed on parents who use their children to try and make money via social.

If it was private it's totally normal to put your kid on there as it's no different to sending to a family or friends whatssap group. If it's public it's weird and dangerous!

It’s not only madness but to the average follower boring as hell to look at.

We’ve all been there, mum of PFB, your baby is the most beautiful in the world and everyone must love them like you do. I have an unbelievable amount of photographs of DS, maybe 1000 as a baby in a cupboard (well before social media) I may have been that person two decades later.

Certainly cheaper to put them on Instagram then have a weekly delivery from Truprint like I did. 😂

Yeah, she won’t make money. So many people think they can but they can’t. People want free stuff in exchange for pics of their baby but you have to ask yourself, who’d follow a baby account anyway?! Insta ‘fame’ attempts are grim IMO.

Funny you should say that about beauty contests @minimagican she has just signed her child up to a modelling agency.
And I agree what kind of people actually follow a baby/child account unless you have a similar page or well I don't want to think about the second option.