14 month old tantrums

[Louisbeau]

My 14 month old has regular tantrums, he throws his head back and will lie on the floor and scream. I try to pick him up and hold him because this week when he threw his head back he bit his lip and it bled. It’s generally when he doesn’t get his own way. I’m a first time mom so just need some advice on how to deal with it. Like what’s best to do in that situation? I generally deal with it by trying to avoid certain situations that may lead to a tantrum but I’m just looking for some more advice from moms who have dealt with this before as I feel like it’s a constant struggle.

Sorry I’ve just seen I’ve posted this on AIBU but meant to post it on the baby thread, sorry about that

Hello my dd was a dream at 14 months but she’s having really bad tantrums now at 21 months.

Marking my spot in case there any good advice but mostly, think it’s a just a natural phrase.

It all depends on your parenting style.

Tantrums are caused by toddlers becoming overwhelmed by their emotions. I think it’s fine to try and avoid them as much as possible eg give them the blue plate and make sure they don’t get over hungry but I wouldn’t try to prevent them all together. Toddlers aren’t capable of logic and even if they were at this point they are overwhelmed. The best thing is to wait it out. For DD1 I used to sit near her on the floor and say I’m here for you when you want a cuddle. Eventually she would stop and come for a cuddle and when she was older she would talk about it about an hour later.

I got some carpet samples, the rectangle ones the size of a large shoebox, and put the kid down on there if they couldn't be held, so they could thrash about a bit (flag floors). Funny, hadn't thought about that for years.

Echo pp, try to anticipate needs and wants,, minimise saying no if poss.

As above!

I give DS a really tight hug, tell him I love him and it's ok. I also repeat what he doesn't want to do

"You don't want to sit at the table right now, I understand"

And I always find it best to put myself into my toddlers shoes; if I understood the world a bit more, but yet couldn't talk, I would probably throw a tantrum

Occasionally, I will walk away for 15 seconds and then come back and cuddle/talk, and sometimes they just need to get it out their system

Preempting what will cause a tantrum can stop a lot of them. Failing that I find the most effective for us is to describe what has happened, "you feel cross because you wanted to play with the cable and mummy said no" etc and then distract "wow I just saw a dog out the window!"

As week as the above I admit do this:

Start playing with their favourite you or reading their favourite book. Often they will quickly stop what they're doing to come and sit with me.

With my eldest, I just left him to get on with his tantrum. With my youngest, I tried to avoid it, help him etc. My eldest stopped having tantrums pretty quickly and my youngest is five now and still a difficult little git.

I used to pick my two p over my shoulder and carry them up to bed if I thought they was going to hurt themselves while having tantrums. I can't say I remember many at 14 months though.