More neighbours and parking

[Ritascornershop]

This is a manners question rather than a legal thing (I am not in the UK).

In our street everyone has a driveway with room for two cars, one behind the other. When people have 2 cars they tend to park on the street in front of their house. The gardens are wide enough that there’s room in front of each house 2 cars.

New people next door to me. She parks in their driveway and he parks on the road, about a foot from my driveway, so when I pull in it’s a wee bit more care and attention on my part. It also means that from their lounge they don’t look at his car but from mine I do. When he has visitors they park in front of his house (inches from my driveway instead of closer to their own) and he parks in front of my house. Wtf? I emailed him last month (as I seldom see him) asking him to park in front of his house as I needed the space for my visitors but now he’s gone back to parking in front of mine.

There’s no parking regulations against anyone parking there, but I feel he’s pissing on my territory and I doubt very much he’d do it if there was a middle-aged man living here, but as it’s me, small single mum, well, might as well aye?

AIBU to be annoyed?

Part your own car there.

If you dont own the road and there are no restrictions then surely he can park where he likes.,why dont you park in front of your house instead then he cant get in there. Its annoying.

Park in front of his house or buy an old banger and park it in front of his house.

They can park anywhere on the road as long as it’s safe and legal. Your visitors can park outside his house surely?

YANBU to be annoyed but you don't own the road outside your house so there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. I can't believe that you emailed him! For that alone, I voted YABU.

It is inconsiderate and smacks of entitlement, but as you say, you’re a woman, he’s a man, and he thinks he can do it with no repercussions.

You could start parking outside your own house, or better still outside his house(!), but you’ll probably get bored before he does.

Yeah, if I was you I'd be parking 6 inches from HIS drive, EVERY day....................
I would never use my drive at all.

Worse thing you could have done is make him aware you’re annoyed. He clearly enjoys the fact he’s annoyed you and so is laying it on thicker. Just park in front of your house, or if he’s already there, park in front of his.

its the street anyone can park anywhere to stop him park your own there

Park in front of his place so he's looking at your car through his window. See if he moves then.

Long story that would be revealing as to why I emailed him, but suffice it to say I got blocked in my driveway by a stranger to both of us as stranger would have been better off parking in front of me (tradesman) but couldn’t because neighbour man was there instead. So yes, I’d like the spot for the neighbour but I also didn’t want to get blocked in again. More details would make it make more sense but it’s too revealing.

He rarely goes out, but I shall keep an eagle on his car so I can park there. Maybe a week of it will get the point across.

@updownroundandround

Yeah, if I was you I'd be parking 6 inches from HIS drive, EVERY day.................... I would never use my drive at all.

Yep, ditto that. I've never been beaten yet at a game of Silly Buggers.

I would just park in front of his house too. If he asks say you couldn't quite get on your drive because he was v close.

You don't own the road and unless he's blocking your access I think you're being cheeky to ask to be honest

Get your visitors to park in front of his house

Unsurprisingly he never once parks in front of the people on the other side of him, who only own one vehicle but are a couple that includes a middle-aged man.

If he was an equal opportunity parker it wouldn’t bother me so much, it’s that I feel the force of his male privilege every time I go in my lounge and see his vehicle (which I’m seeing so that his view is of empty road and trees).

@PineappleTart

You don't own the road and unless he's blocking your access I think you're being cheeky to ask to be honest

I agree it is cheeky to ask. But just occasionally it is fun to be PA back to parking twats .

He’s on the verge of blocking my access ... well, maybe that’s an exaggeration, but he’s maybe 10 inches from my drive so in the dark I have to creep in and if someone is parked on the opposite side then backing out is an adventure.

His visitor is out so I’m now in front of his house, he’s in front of mine, and if he ever leaves I’ll pull up in front of mine.

My friend got an old banger because of dickhead neighbours and issues it caused getting on an off her drive. It’s given her much more space to get off her drive now and she’s much happier. Partly because of less stress but also because she knows they know why she did it. Gotta love the British sense of passive aggressive not mentioning anything 😎

I wish Beryl! I couldn’t afford the banger, nvm that here we have to pay to insure any vehicle not on private land. But it would be amusing.

Stay in front of his house, give him the benefit of a nice view of your car. Make sure you’re no more than 10 inches from his driveway - see how he likes it. What’s sauce for the goose ... and all that!

I have to go out later (it’s only morning here at the moment), so we’ll see where he is when I return. Legally I’m not allowed to block my own driveway or I’d do that.

Oh, the joy of being able to park near your own house/flat, no parking restrictions....

Of course YABU - no parking restrictions, as long as he is not blocking your driveway, he can park where he likes,

@EveryDayIsADuvetDay you don’t think he’s being a bit of a twat making it more difficult for me to back out so that his wife doesn’t have the same problem? Not being a twat for inconveniencing me instead of the bloke on the other side of him? Not being a bit of a twat for parking in front of my house so he doesn’t have to look at his own car (that’s his less common choice, sometimes because he has visitors, sometimes for no apparent reason)?

not really about whether he's a twat or not - it's a public road, he is entitled to park on it.