Group chats

[Blwoingbubbles]

In a group chat where there is easily over 100 messages a day about really general stuff. The people on it are really lovely - but I find group chats so draining. I’m quite an introverted person and I’m often not using my phone all day so when I check it there’s so many messages I just don’t even know where to chirp in or respond.
AIBU to feel drained by group chats? Or is this really antisocial? I find the modern world difficult to navigate as a person who feels quite overwhelmed by 24/7 communication with people!! I know some people may say ‘leave the group chat’ but it’s not as easy as that without that seeming rude as I do like the people on it and when someone invites me in to one I feel rude saying no.
I just chip in when I can and when I have the energy to read through hundreds of messages. I do suffer from anxiety and mild depression so I may feel like this is more invasive than the average person but I’d love to hear I’m not alone in having this opinion to be honest!

They are not mandatory! The whole point is that you can join or not, as often or as little as you are comfortable.

If someone writes you an email, or give you a call, they put you on the spot. The beauty of social media and any group chat is that it gives you complete freedom.

Thank you. I often feel like there’s some unspoken social pressure to participate in all the conversations and feel people may see me as rude for not doing that but it’s almost constant messaging and I just don’t feel I could keep up with that!

Ok, need some advice. Fake name made up.
Just got back with ex after horrid Covid break up. He says he changed etc etc. Just seen a £646 payment on his bank account. It says 24hourmassage Londom ( he’s dyslexic btw) I asked and he said 5 of them went to a strip club in London. This is screaming escort to me?!! Help!! Researching on internet doesn’t help?

@Dianastree

Ok, need some advice. Fake name made up. Just got back with ex after horrid Covid break up. He says he changed etc etc. Just seen a £646 payment on his bank account. It says 24hourmassage Londom ( he’s dyslexic btw) I asked and he said 5 of them went to a strip club in London. This is screaming escort to me?!! Help!! Researching on internet doesn’t help?

You need to start your own thread on this. Adding it to a thread about group chats and introversion won't be very effective in getting attracting advice.

Dianastree you need to start your own thread

OP i would mute the chat. If its anything important they can message you directly

Also he is hiding money

Sorry how do I do this

OP I would ditch WhatApp altogether

I had it for about 2 weeks because I thought to would be useful for a particular thing. But really it's people dumping the contents of their brain into your phone.

I told everyone it was stressful, annoying, feeding my anxiety etc.

@Dianastree

Go here www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships and at the top click "Start a new thread within this topic"

@Dianastree

Sorry how do I do this

To be honest, I wouldn't bother with a new thread: there's already been one awful break up, he's visiting massage parlours, and he's hiding money.

Get rid instantly, and don't reconsider. There is no other advice to be given.

You needn't worry about reading every message. U could just mute the chat and dip in as and when you want to. Read the last 4/5 messages and if you wanna / got something to say, you can. Honestly, your friends are not going to mind at all. Noone expects anyone to constantly be involved in the chat, only if you want to of course

Mine is on mute, I check it once a day and chip in briefly. Job done. It was stressful before this when my phone pinged constantly and I felt compelled to answer.