I'll try and keep this as brief as possible, NC as I have quite a lot of posts which would be obviously identifying in real life.
ExH left 6 years ago to live 250 miles away with the girl he an affair with. I was left for months with a nearly 2 year old Dd and a 6 month old baby.
We divorced quite smoothly, he went off and we went to mediation in which we agreed he wanted to see the kids 1 weekend a month. They had to travel to his new home because he refused to make alternative arrangements. That's a long slog for the kids, sometimes it takes 5 hours on Friday rush hour. When the kids reached school age he suddenly decided he wanted 50% of holidays and alternate weekends. I agreed as I think that's reasonable.
He has now decided that he's not going to work due to a large inheritance and he's going to move back here. He literally text and said 'we'll do 50/50 then, one week here, one week there' as if he can just click his fingers. He's got the kids at the moment and he's told them! Didn't even consult me.
The kids obviously do love him but he has other step children who they don't get on with. I obviously haven't had a chance to speak to them to see how they feel about anything.
AIBU to think he can't just suddenly decide this is his 'right' and he's going to go ahead?
I have a solicitor appointment for early next week but obviously in the meantime I'm really worried. Selfishly I feel like he's always just deciding what suits him and we all have to fall in line.
I remarried and have a 2 year old DS now so it's not just me to consider on my side either.
I hope this makes sense.