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To feel like I’ll never be able to better myself career/job wise?

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Jobwise · 25/08/2020 10:30

Probably just need a rant, not sure what anyone on here can do but I can’t speak to my family/friends IRL as they’ll only worry about me if they know that I’m feeling down.

So basically, I’ve always been in low paid entry level jobs, mainly child care. I didn’t do very well in school due to being bullied for years. I absolutely hated going and ended up skipping school for nearly 6 months until they moved me to special education. I don’t think I even completed any GCSE’s (honestly can’t remember, it’s such a blur and I’ve never received any certificates so I’m assuming I didn’t sit the tests). I haven’t got a lot going for me, I don’t think I’m very clever to be honest but I know what I’m doing when it comes to looking after kids. I’ve worked with them for over 9 years so I have plenty of experience and knowledge, but that’s about it.

I’ve worked in nurseries and schools previously. I’m currently a private nanny and have been for the last few years. I enjoy it but I always have to seek out a new job every couple of years as once the kids go off to full time school I’m no longer needed, I feel like I have no job security at all. I have all the necessary qualifications including a Level 2 diploma which I completed whilst I worked in the nursery. I’ve always been interested in becoming a childcare/NVQ assessor but many of the roles require the candidate to be Level 3 qualified. I’m unable to complete the qualification whilst being a nanny as they require me to have a supervisor. I’m not interested in going back into nursery work for many reasons including poor treatment of staff, ratios not being followed, poorly pay and long hours and I can’t commit to college full time either as I need to work (rent a flat by myself and have other bills).

I have found a part time course which I would need to fund myself which I think over rides the level 3 qualification (waiting to hear back) but I know my employer would not be happy about me dropping my hours. He would be screwed. I’ve looked at other jobs including office work and cleaning but by god you even need qualifications for those types of jobs now (not knocking people in those jobs btw, it just makes it hard for anyone to change their field of work if they only have qualifications/experience in one specific area). I know so many people who are a “jack of all trades” and can go into any job but I just can’t do that. I’m not clever enough. It makes me feel shit seeing all my friends gaining all these qualifications and going into these brilliant jobs. I’m also based in Wales which doesn’t have a lot of opportunities so to speak, but I do drive so I guess have that advantage.

I’ve looked into student grants online but don’t really understand how it works. I’m not sure I’d even qualify for the funding. I’m not normally the type of person who feels sorry for themselves but AIBU to feel that there is just no help for people like me? I want to better myself and work my way up but I feel like I’ve run out of options. Again, I know Mumsnet can’t help but it’s just good to get it off my chest. Thanks for reading if you’ve this far.

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Timmytoo · 25/08/2020 10:35

Why don't you set up a small business that covers emergency childcare? Have a team of babysitters etc. That way you're working for yourself and you have the childcare experience to manage others etc.

SmellsLikeFeet · 25/08/2020 10:36

Bloody hell, you've got to have something about you if you work well with children
That's a major skill
Libraries are opening soon, they may have information /know of courses to help you
Good luck

Jobwise · 25/08/2020 10:47

@Timmytoo it's a really good idea and I have thought about it in the past but I'm not even sure where I would start. I'd need to get insurance and then hire people I imagine. I'm also not sure if there is a demand for it in my area. It's quite a big risk.

@SmellsLikeFeet thank you that's very kind.

I was interested in opening up my own nursery a few years ago, having worked in some awful ones myself it taught me what to do/not do. But again it's having the money in the first place to start up a business, and with so many nurseries closing down now I'm not sure if it would be a risk.

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Jobwise · 25/08/2020 11:01

Would love to hear from anyone who owns their own nursery or even someone who works as a child care assessor?

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BaconsLaw · 25/08/2020 11:02

I couldn't work in childcare so bravo!

Seriously, I struggle entertaining my own child for a day.

MaskingForIt · 25/08/2020 11:05

Hmm, can you look for a careers advice service, or small business start up advice?

I think what you could really do with is a mentor in your field, who could discuss different ways to progress your career and would know about the different courses you could take. Do you still have any friends/contacts in the nurseries that you’ve worked in?

Can you contact a college that does childcare courses and discuss your options with them?

Your current employer might be open to you working and studying - someone who can afford a nanny has presumably studied themselves, and would hopefully be supportive of you wanting to further your education.

popples19 · 25/08/2020 11:09

This caught my eye as I feel similar stuck in only one area of career which is low paying.

However if you are considering opening a child care setting then can I please beg you to open on Saturdays and open until 7pm in the week. I have spent many years being restricted by child care opening hours.

I am sure there are business grants you may be able to apply for which would get you up and running. Good luck.

popples19 · 25/08/2020 11:11

oh also there are online a levels you can take which don't require gcse's. If you wanted to completely retrain. I will be starting a level English lit in September. Its just under £40 a month. That might be worth looking into.

Ukholidaysaregreat · 25/08/2020 11:21

Child care in your own home?

WinterAndRoughWeather · 25/08/2020 11:22

Are there any business courses at your local college? Maybe night classes? Running your own childcare business would seem ideal for you.

Jobwise · 25/08/2020 11:52

Thanks for all the great advice Grin I have tried speaking to Careers Wales previously but they weren't much help, I might try again though and see if they can offer any advice. Job centre were also useless.

I wouldn't even need to obtain the qualifications to run my own nursery as I would hire the qualified staff to work there. It is literally just having the money in the first place to start up the business. I have looked into it before and just thought I couldn't afford it, I imagine a lot of people who do it are already financially comfortable.

I will keep on looking though and won't give up!

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MeredithGreysScalpel · 25/08/2020 11:56

What about distance learning? Then you wouldn’t need to drop your hours. Have a look at the OU - they don’t require previous qualifications.

Jobwise · 25/08/2020 12:00

@MeredithGreysScalpel thank you, I'll take a look at that Smile

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Scrambling101 · 25/08/2020 16:33

I know how you feel OP. My situation is different but it's like I've got stuck in a rut with no clear idea to a well paid job, it's so frustrating.

Do you have kids yourself or any ties to where you are? I ask because nannies to wealthy families can earn an absolute fortune, compared to the minimum wage! Long hours but often travel and other staff eg cleaners so as long as you click with the child or children and their parents, can be a great experience.

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