To be annoyed at endless holiday pics during pandemic?

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Boss is a textbook narcissist, always bragging about her super life, house, husband.... Anyways, this summer she went abroad for two months. Every day we are sent a new pic (or Zoom live stream) of her amazing vacay, golden beaches, sea... I feel a bit like a sour grape, but I can't help feeling peeved. I haven't been able to see my family abroad since Christmas, and everyone in our team has gone through a lot of stress for various reasons (redundancies, etc). Is it wrong to expect a bit more consideration in these difficult times?

Yanbu in a way as i am annoyed i have been stuck here but people yse FB to show off so roll eyes .

Sorry....saw that this was not on Facebook...definately not being unreasonable. Zoom live stream....!!!
She sounds awful.

Zoom live stream sounds awful, but she’s not unreasonable to go on holiday if she follows local rules and restrictions whilst she’s there, and appropriately quarantines if necessary when she gets home.

I’m sorry your family live in a location you can’t visit.

Yes when they are colleagues who will be back in the next few days and won't be quarantining before coming back to work. One is in France and the other in Croatia, fine if they want to go but it's not fine to decide that it's ok to put others at risk.

Whilst the constant photos and videos sound dreadful, especially if you have to open them, but she isn't unreasonable to go abroad, so long as she follows the guidelines both here and wherever she is.

I'm sorry you've been able to visit your family abroad. That's difficult.

Sorry you can't visit your family OP. I'm in the same position and don't know when I'll see them again either. It's hard isn't it

YANBU to feel peeved, your boss is being an idiot. If it helps, every time she does this just think to yourself how she is making herself look.

YABU, however, to use the word “vacay”.

YABU, however, to use the word “vacay”.

I took that to be that the colleague was sharing pictures and using the word ‘vacay’. Might be wrong though.

OP, I don’t blame you. Seeing all the holiday pictures on Facebook is making me very jealous. We had a lovely holiday to Croatia booked for the Easter but it was cancelled. I’m glad it was though as it took the decision out of our hands. I would have hated to have to decide to cancel whilst others were still going.

I am not really questioning the travel abroad (which isn't officially holiday, but "working from home" - another story), it's more the rubbing it into everyone's faces that annoys me. I apologise for using the word "vacay", it was meant to convey the feel of the brag ;)

YABU if the issue is her being on holiday.
People are just right to go on holiday.. If other people are going to put their life on hold for potentially a few years that's their lookout.
Why can't you visit your family?

However YANBU about the zoom live stream/bragging. I would be a bit more modest if I was her

I went on a 2 week holiday this summer abroad. Its a place I go every year and I have family I stay with so felt completely safe. Anyway....I got amazing pictures but this year didn't post a single one on facebook. It just would have felt a bit inappropriate to post them. I think directly sending to people on a regular basis is a very unreasonable thing to do unless they've specifically asked.

YANBU about sending pics, it's very bad taste at any time, and very unprofessional, especially from a boss!

YABU about the actual holidays, good for her to make her life enjoyable, she is not doing anything illegal or immoral.

The negative attitude towards holidays is ridiculous, people are often less at risk than they are going shopping in their crowded local Primark!

She is still an absolute idiot to send pics to her team - it sounds like she is working from "home abroad"? Best time ever to do that, she should still keep low key about it.

No I don’t think you’re being unreasonable to expect more consideration at this time. Why is a boss sending pics/live stream of their holiday to their staff? If it was for genuinely interested friends/family fair enough.
I belong to a FB closed group relevant to the profession I’m in. Every year there are the usual photos of legs on sun lounger looking out on to an amazing beach/swimming pool etc. with the caption “this is my view for the next couple of weeks”. They have also done exactly the same this year. What are they trying to achieve? They know how some are struggling financially, cancelling holidays due to the virus, not getting money back, generally stressed. I just don’t get it Holiday = fine, photos of holiday sent to work colleagues/staff = just why?

The bigger issue is why your boss is allowed 2 months annual leave and why has she been allowed to book it all off in one block?

My previous workplace gave me the bare minimum 4 weeks and my current place gives me 5 weeks. Both places allowed me to book a fortnight off in one block, and anything above that was down to manager's discretion. Anything over 3 weeks was unusual.

Being abroad doesn't mean she has 2 months off,
and they would clearly be wasted if she had to be in touch with the office every day anyway.

But even if she has 2 months off, so what? There's no rule about a MAXIMUM (paid or unpaid) time off people are allowed, thank god. We only need a law to make sure there's a MINIMUM.

Businesses work a lot better when they are not crippled by stupid and arbitrary rules and they adapt and accommodate around the needs of the business.

What's the point of being a manager if you only get away with the bare minimum paid leave

What's the point of being a manager if you only get away with the bare minimum paid leave

Well precisely. If its above board and been officially granted etc then whT the problem.

Personally I'm not a face book constant updater or zoom person cos how can you be having such an amazing time if its all spent posting shit on face book. Live it. Put the lap top down. Sounds a bit needy tbh.

But if shes within guidelines shes within guidelines. Theres been alot of people angry throughout lock down that anyone do anything besides sit on the sofa eating the wood shavings from the rabbit hutch.

Everyone is free to do what they want within guidelines at the time , not everyone's up for a game of competitive isolation.

If she hadn't of gone away, it wouldn't change you being able to see your family, so you've got no cause to feel peeved at her, unless her work is suffering and you are suffering from the knock on effects.

There's been a lot of envy during this pandemic. I hope a few people are examining the real motives for their feelings and behaviour and working on themselves.

Can you unfollow her so you don't have to see it?
I feel similarly, I haven't seen my Mum in almost a year (was supposed to at Easter but flights were cancelled) and it's not looking like it'll happen in the next few months. Not seen my sister or brother in 18m. But I also can't control what other people do so I just ignore the holiday snaps.

I couldn't give two hoots what other folk may choose or not to do.

Too busy and happy living my own life to get worked up about others.

Much of it is an illusion anyway. You never see people on FB showing pics of the baliff's taking the tv/car away or their overdrawn cc statements.