To not want to lug my baby all around London at night when I don't even have to?

[BroccoliSpears]

We're going to see the in-laws. SIL wants us to stay with them in their new house. She's excited and wants us to be her first guests. I get that. It's nice.

But, we'll be going for dinner at PILs. PIL have a spare room.

I suggested that it made more sense to stay at PILs this time, as we'd be able to bath LO, put her to bed in her travel cot and she'd be set for the night.

Because I know SIL is excited about her new house, I suggested that we drive straight down to SIL, spend the day with her at the new house, go over to PILs in time to bath and bed LO, then go back to SIL the next day to spend time there before the (enormous) drive home.

But no. SIL is majorly peed. She says that "what normal people do is just lift their sleeping baby and pop them in the car seat and then lift them out the other end."

Well, yes, we could do that. We WOULD do that. But why? When there's a bloody spare room with a nice double bed all made up at PILs?

She wants us to feed and bath LO at hers, put her in jammies, then drive accross town and make up the travel cot, put her to sleep at PILs while we have dinner, then wake her up, get her out of her gro-bag, put her coat on (it is October and it's cold) put her in the car seat, take down the travel cot, drive back to theirs, re-make the travel cot, re-gro-bag LO and put her back to sleep. I'm sure she'll sleep beautifully after all that .

No, of course it won't kill her, and we could do it, but am I being unreasonable to not really want to, given the circumstances?

Plus SIL knows that I'm really suffering with morning sickness atm, and when SHE had morning sickness a couple of months ago the whole world had to stop. Now I'm just being bitchy. But humph.

Go on, tell me I'm an unreasonable old bag and should lug LO about if SIL is excited about her new house.

[vacua]

I was thinking you could try just letting the baby sleep in the car seat instead of mucking about with a travel cot each time - but you're not exactly being unreasonable, some babies are just more portable than others.

[legalalien]

YANBU. We didn't have a "portable" baby, but try explaining that to any of our [childless] friends who were labouring under (actually, some of whom are still labouring under) the illusion that having children doesn't / shouldn't really affect your life, including your social life. Yeah, right. Call me selfish, but I STILL don't understand why those without kids can't, to some extent, work around those who do have kids, given the reduction in flexibility that having children brings with it... we used to do so before we had a child!

Since you have mumsnet to reassure you that YANBU, I say, stick to your guns......

[Carbonel]

I thought young babies should not spend more than 1 hour in a car seat?

I certainly would not lug my baby around to suit my pregnant and hormonal SIL (but then my SIL has 5 children all older than mine so would NEVER do this )

Just dig your heels in and be irritatingly smug " next year you'll understand"

[munchkinmum]

She clearly doesn't have a clue.... YANBU.