Constantly criticised by DH

[SassandBelle]

Has anyone any experience of being in a relationship where, no matter what you do, you're always in the wrong?

I can't seem to do anything right - every single action or word is criticised.

@SassandBelle

Has anyone any experience of being in a relationship where, no matter what you do, you're always in the wrong?

I can't seem to do anything right - every single action or word is criticised.

Yes, he's an ex. He also had put downs for any time I felt good, or had achieved something, etc. Twunt.

@Guineapigbridge

Just my PoV. Some people are more victim-y than others. They are. Don't well up with tears when standing up for yourself gets better results. Find your power.

The only way I was ever able to find power was to leave, with the DC.

Constant criticism, combined with the implication of physical violence makes it hard to stand up to someone. Even 3 years after leaving, I'd still struggle to stand up to him face to face.

You come across as glib and victim blaming.

@Guineapigbridge

I have no problem finding my power. Your patronising and condescending messages just make you look like an emotionally challenged loser.

I had a business partner make my life a misery for 10 years and thought there was no way out. I tried everything to manage his behaviour and nothing worked. The only way I got respite was by not engaging, and WFH. So you could do the same within the house. Just don't engage and lead separate lives where possible. People talk about grey rock for nasty men. Look it up.

However I saw a solicitor finally and was able to ascertain in the first meeting that I was not in fact trapped. So he is gone now. Which really was the only way.

I think you get your financial info together and set up an introductory meeting with a few solicitors and see what the situation is - assuming you haven't already. You might be surprised.

Or you set up another income stream which you hide from him completely (because otherwise it becomes a marital asset). And plan your escape.

Whether it is in a relationship or at work or anything else, constant criticism is not nice and wears you down.