To find DP's friend overbearing

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Name changed for this one to be on the safe side.

My live-in DP has a friend, let's call him Dave, who has been texting him most days during lockdown, at what seems like an increasing rate. He was texting before lockdown, but it has become more noticeable (for DP and myself) during lockdown. A few months ago they would have a bit of banter and talk about the novelty of lockdown, but now Dave is sending very similar opening texts every day or every other day. DP is getting a bit tired of it, to the point I am beginning to become irritated as well.

DP sometimes takes ages to reply and has tried talking about things he knows Dave has little interest in, but that doesn't seem to make any difference.

AIBU to think Dave is a bit overbearing, and do you have any tips for reducing the frequency of texts without being brutally blunt?

Thanks @Inaseagull.

I also agree it is a tough situation to be in. You don't want to offend but equally your DP shouldn't feel like he has to carry on with texting on Dave's terms. It is hard too if there are mutual friends involved.

I would just reply every few days then less with decreasing frequency, and try not to get drawn into conversation too much. His friend sounds lonely but it is very emotionally draining to be someone's go to all the time and as you say it seems like they view the friendship differently. Above all as well, if Dave really down need support it would be better for him too if it was someone who has known him longer and with whom he is closer.

Some wise words @badg3r. He possibly needs more support than he lets on, but isn't willing to tell anyone.