To move away from everyone?

[TiredMama90]

I don't get on with family, Sister is a nasty and very spiteful person.
She's incredibly controlling, if I don't do as she expects, then I'm shunned from the family.

My mother isn't much better, to keep the "peace", she just puts up with her so my sister doesn't kick off at her too.

A huge argument between me and my sister happened yesterday & now my mum is hardly speaking to me, even turned her phone off so I couldn't contact her.

AIBU to just leave. Chuck a dart at a map and just pack me and my son (3) and go. Wherever we go, we will have 0 family OR friends. I'm single so no partner to move with either.

Has anyone else done this before??

Lots of people have done this. Many, many people don't live in the town they were born in
Go for it, but make it an exciting, positive move, not a bitter, sad one.
Also, you will need a plan for making new friends. It's quite hard as an adult but play groups, friendly kid classes and work are a good place to start.

Why cant you stay and go no or limited contact with them?
What will you do for money?
You can move, people do it all the time.

You will need to find a school for your dc soon, so choose somewhere to live that you are happy to stay for a while.

Go for it and build yourself a fresh start.

I've moved loads and can highly recommend it.

“It is okay to run away from something, but it’s better to run toward something.”

Yes moving could be really positive. Choose somewhere far enough away - at least an hours drive, but not like 5 hours away. That way you can still go back to meet up with friends and family but it's far enough away that they can't just pop over. The less you see them, hopefully the more positive your interactions can be. Like others have said, find somewhere to get excited about.

Don’t put yourself through years of trying to resolve relationships which only work when you capitulate.
Ask yourself do you want to be having these same problems in ten years.
As for moving, do what’s best for you and your dc. You need to move on mentally, not physically. Don’t give your dsis or dm headspace.

New start, new names, numbers and social media etc, so you can't be found, and reboot your life .

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New start, new names, numbers and social media etc, so you can't be found, and reboot your life .

Isn't that a bit negative. OP you could move on without a fallout. Keep them at a very large distance in your head. But long term it might be better not to leave on bad terms. Do it though. You'll be happier.

Not negative at all. What's the point of a fresh start if the nasty people ( as mentioned in OP's post) can still find you and hurt you.

Sorry you’re feeling like this. I can relate! I wish I could give you magical answer. What helps me is I try to mentally dis-engage from toxic family members. I try to in my head think they must be really pathetic and sick to behave like this. When I’m not feeling myself my personality changes, like I’ve got a little cold but I feel myself seething and getting angry about everything! So imagine your sister must feel like this all the time as she’s not mentally stable if she feels she must control others to feel good about herself.

You are not unreasonable to cut them out of your life, but unless you've got schools for the DC and a plan for a job/income, you are unreasonable to move away.

@TiredMama90 If you want to move away and cut off contact, then you should do it! Just keep in mind that you will need a plan for your child's education, your work / financial stability etc etc (plus preferably a safety net in case something goes wrong). If you can manage these things though, then there's no harm in setting up shop somewhere new and restarting your life - just keep in mind that you may still have the mental and emotional effects of your family even if you move / change your life. xx