Husband always working

[alexio]

Aibu?
I have a 5 month old son and I am 8 weeks pregnant again. My husband is a chef and works long hours, he'll say he finishes at 8 that night but won't come home until 10-1030 saying they had to clean up etc. He works almost everyday between his full time place and agency. So I am home with baby (which I love) but due to Covid restrictions we haven't been able to go anywhere.

He complains when he gets home that I don't want to do anything, sex included, but when he is home so late and I've been busy all day I just want to either sleep or relax

AIBU to be upset when he's home late every time or am I just being selfish? I know work can run late sometimes but when it's everyday it's very tiring

He's a chef and part of that role is to clean the kitchen thoroughly, ready for the next day, unless you want the environmental health to close you down.
YABU.

I don't think your being unreasonable but that is his job and employers are not that bothered about home lives , unfortunately. Of course your tired too : children are hard work and it sounds like your on your own with your child all day which is also tough when they are so small and demanding.
It's tough at the moment for the ones in work. It's not easy but unless your dh gets a job with better more family friendly hours then this is how it'll be.
My dh worked away a lot with his job abroad ; weeks on my own doing school runs and nobody to help. I was fed up too , so I know how you feel. It can be isolating.
Can he have any leave soon ? Maybe a short break might be a good idea , at least it's something to look forwards to even if it's just a staycation.
It does also take its toll on your time together and covid hasn't helped anything at all either.
Does he get any time off at all during the week?

Does he start early every day or can you have sometime in the mornings to do something together maybe?

It’s hard OP, being home with baby and another on the way is both wonderful but also exhausting and isolating. Talk to him.

Perhaps he could become a stay at home dad and you do a job with more family social hours?

Being a chef invariable involves anti-social hours - was his working pattern similar before you had children?
Or has he increased his hours/agency work because you need the additional money to provide for child/children?